Things to Know Before You Get Serious!

Recently, my cousin came to me for advice. She had been in a 3-month casual dating relationship and felt like it had the potential to become serious. When I started asking her questions to gauge if she was ready, I realized, that even though she had easily been on 20+ dates, talked on the phone for nearly 100 hours, and sent an endless number of text and Facebook messages to this guy, she knew nothing about what mattered for a long-term commitment. When you decide to enter a serious relationship with someone, it is a very important decision. Therefore, I suggest it be well thought out.

What is his STD status?

If you’re ready for a serious relationship then you’re ready to talk about serious topics, and STDs is without question one of them.

Where does he live?

Is that his crib, his boy’s, or his parents? You need to know!

Can you speak the same love language?

Knowing his love language and making sure he knows yours will ensure that you both know you are loved.

Does he prefer a joint or separate bank account?

Are you okay with his preference? Disputes over finances is the leading cause of breakups. Good communication upfront can alleviate issues down the road.

How does he act when times are bad?

When the going gets tough, do the tough get going? Does he become selfish or selfless?

What relationship does he have with his family?

The relationship he has with his family can be very telling. A good relationship with mom usually translates to increased respect for women.

Are you physically attracted to him?

Make sure you positively know you’re physically attracted to him before things get serious. Attraction rarely grows over time.

Will he be able to satisfy your libido and vice versa?

Not everyone is sexually compatible. #RealTalk

Does he want children?

This is a non-starter on everyone’s list. If you want children and he’s adamant that kids are not in his future, keep it moving.

What are his credit scores?

 

Credit scores determine access to many things in life. If yours and/or his are not up to par, develop a strategy to get on the right track.