How To Become A Better Lover

Don't Be A Selfish Love

Though porn can get us off when a woman isn't in the picture, ultimately, it takes two to tango. And, much like the dance itself, it's not going to work if you just stand there expecting her to do all the work. It's also not going to work if you rush through it, doing a half-ass job. (You know what we're talking about: "I'll go down on you for a few minutes -- now do me for the rest of it!")
There's nothing wrong with admitting that you aren't the best in bed, as long as you make the effort to improve.

Know How To Introduce New Things, Like Anal Sex

OK, here's the thing: We know a lot of you are into anal. We know, because we get a ton of emails, likes and comments about it. But unlike porn, which has us believing anal sex involves no prep (physical and mental), and that all women love it, the reality is you're going to have to work for it. Here, Jason Phelps, licensed psychotherapist, discusses how to introduce anal into a relationship and the importance of experimenting.

Read The Signs

Are you ignoring her  when she's turning her back to you? Do you go for it before warming her up with foreplay? Face it: There are many mistakes guys make in the bedroom because we're not paying attention to the signs. Being in tune with her cues will make you a better lover.

Never Get Boring In Bed

Sticking to what works in bed is fine -- until it gets boring. Your sex life shouldn't be scripted; it should be exciting and fun. Next time you're in bed, put the predictable position on the back burner and try one of these. (See, doesn't just hearing about them get you excited?)

 

Maintain Your Sex Drive

Sex isn't just about one-night stands and relationships that last for a few months. Sex for couples in long-term relationships has its own considerations (frequency, quality, etc.) and requires different stimulation. You're not going to win any Best Lover awards if you've fallen into the same predictable routine. So maintain your sex drive with these tips.

Do Use Sex Toys

There's a stigma around sex toys because it makes a man think, "Aren't I enough to satisfy you?" There's a good chance you are, but sex toys aren't about that. They're about enhancing the experience, in a safe way, by introducing a new element into the mix. A man who can please a woman using his style and work in toys makes for a better, more well-rounded lover. Check out this video for some fun sex-toy suggestions.

Don't Rely On Alcohol

We turn to alcohol for a variety of reasons: to unwind, to party, to give us the confidence to approach women -- it's true. But, as many of you know, drunk sex doesn't quite work. It's sloppy and the alcohol can seriously mess up an erection.

Manage Your Sexpectations

Heard of the term "great sexpectations"? Sure you have, but have you actually reflected on your own? Your expectations influence your actions and your performance in the bedroom. One area in which men have set unrealistic expectations is the first date Many men think that it's likely to happen, but we hit the streets to ask women what they really think. Being a good lover means managing expectations and respecting hers.