Make Her Horny.

While that one tip will always be important (the one in your pants), there happens to be a slew of other tips women would like you to know, gentlemen!
Sex is about the partnership, not the selfishness — so take notes!
Here are 16 tips all the ladies want you to know!
The right kind of sex text

While most dirty texts have all the sensuality of a dry-hump, a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that there is a way you can make them work. Text her about the last time she initiated sex. Remind her what she did, what she was wearing, how she smelled – and how much you loved it all. The study found that approving of her advances in this way increases the chances of a repeat performance the next time you see her.

Catch her post-shower

“While no woman wants to be seduced while she’s loading the dishwasher, don’t underestimate the impact of the element of surprise. If sex has become a bit routine lately, grab her when she’s coming out of the shower. Pin her to the wall and kiss her like you can’t contain yourself. A surprise quickie always leaves a girl wanting more.”

Try some handy work

“Seventy-five percent of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Although sex with her on top is good because it lets her control how she rubs against you, it’s actually more effective to use any position plus your hands.”
Ask your partner to lie face-down, then enter her from behind. Now slip your hand underneath her for extra stimulation. Satisfaction, we assure you, is guaranteed.

Make her see herself differently

Kiss her neck while she’s standing in front of a mirror and undress her slowly. Research from McGill University found that women respond to sexual imagery in the exact way men do. Watching herself will turn her on even more – this is, naturally, better than anything on YouPorn.

Seduce her with music

Play tracks with explicit lyrics, such as S&M by Rihanna. Research published by the American Psychological Association found that such music makes her more attuned to your sex appeal. (Note: this technique may lack subtlety on a first date.)

Leave her a reminder

If the sex has become predictable, spray your bedsheets with the aftershave you wore when you first started dating to subconsciously remind her of your early hedonism. Research in the journal Cognition and Emotion found that smells trigger more vivid and evocative memories - ones she'll want to recreate.

Rethink the g-'spot'

"It's hardly a spot. Instead, stimulate the whole area." Curl your hand into a 'C' shape, with your thumb at the bottom, and use that to enter, says sex coach Uta Demontis. Once inside, apply pressure for 1-2sec, then release, and repeat in a rocking motion. Unlike the clitoris, which prefers rubbing, the G-spot likes direct pressure.

Ask once if she's enjoying it

Once. "Any more and you sound insecure."

Use the side of your tongue

"Or the underside, during oral sex: this is more stimulating."

Follow the rule of 10

Thankfully, we're not talking inches here – it's about maximising your impact. The first 1-2cm of her vagina are the most sensitive. Give them your full attention with nine shallow thrusts, followed by one deep thrust.

It takes two

Sex researchers found that over half of women have told their partners to stop manual or oral stimulation because it was taking too long. To speed up proceedings, use your middle and index fingers inside her, while alternating between your thumb and tongue on her clitoris.

Sleep face-down

And encourage her to as well. A study in the journal Dreaming found that people who sleep stomach-down with their arms above their heads are more likely to have sexual dreams - increasing your chance of being woken up for a 3am encore.

Think beyond the thrust

On average, men thrust for about 3-7min before it's game over. However, research shows this isn't enough time to arouse most women. Stretch out your performance with clever positioning: "Thrust towards her G-spot. Press your body down, not towards her. The motion squeezes your urethra, which helps to delay ejaculation."

Cover all angles

Licking only up and down won’t cut it. "Move over the clitoris from left to right and in circles. The nerve endings aren’t evenly distributed, so the more angles you cover, the better."

Focus your attention

Unlike men, women can lose an orgasm even as it’s happening. When it starts, keep doing exactly what you’re doing. The one exception to the don’t-move rule is when she moves during oral sex. "In this case, she’s adjusting her body to where your touch feels most explosive." Let her be your guide. Just play with what's in front of you (so to speak) and you can’t go wrong.

Mix it up

Research conducted by Indiana University found that mixing four or five different sex acts into one session dramatically increases her chance of reaching orgasm. Start with dirty talk, before stimulating her orally and manually. Use at least one position that involves full eye contact and one with clitoral stimulation, say Demontis. Make the missionary position more interesting by asking her to bring her legs together after you've entered to increase friction. No chafing, we promise.

How To Become A Better Lover

Don't Be A Selfish Love

Though porn can get us off when a woman isn't in the picture, ultimately, it takes two to tango. And, much like the dance itself, it's not going to work if you just stand there expecting her to do all the work. It's also not going to work if you rush through it, doing a half-ass job. (You know what we're talking about: "I'll go down on you for a few minutes -- now do me for the rest of it!")
There's nothing wrong with admitting that you aren't the best in bed, as long as you make the effort to improve.

Know How To Introduce New Things, Like Anal Sex

OK, here's the thing: We know a lot of you are into anal. We know, because we get a ton of emails, likes and comments about it. But unlike porn, which has us believing anal sex involves no prep (physical and mental), and that all women love it, the reality is you're going to have to work for it. Here, Jason Phelps, licensed psychotherapist, discusses how to introduce anal into a relationship and the importance of experimenting.

Read The Signs

Are you ignoring her  when she's turning her back to you? Do you go for it before warming her up with foreplay? Face it: There are many mistakes guys make in the bedroom because we're not paying attention to the signs. Being in tune with her cues will make you a better lover.

Never Get Boring In Bed

Sticking to what works in bed is fine -- until it gets boring. Your sex life shouldn't be scripted; it should be exciting and fun. Next time you're in bed, put the predictable position on the back burner and try one of these. (See, doesn't just hearing about them get you excited?)

 

Maintain Your Sex Drive

Sex isn't just about one-night stands and relationships that last for a few months. Sex for couples in long-term relationships has its own considerations (frequency, quality, etc.) and requires different stimulation. You're not going to win any Best Lover awards if you've fallen into the same predictable routine. So maintain your sex drive with these tips.

Do Use Sex Toys

There's a stigma around sex toys because it makes a man think, "Aren't I enough to satisfy you?" There's a good chance you are, but sex toys aren't about that. They're about enhancing the experience, in a safe way, by introducing a new element into the mix. A man who can please a woman using his style and work in toys makes for a better, more well-rounded lover. Check out this video for some fun sex-toy suggestions.

Don't Rely On Alcohol

We turn to alcohol for a variety of reasons: to unwind, to party, to give us the confidence to approach women -- it's true. But, as many of you know, drunk sex doesn't quite work. It's sloppy and the alcohol can seriously mess up an erection.

Manage Your Sexpectations

Heard of the term "great sexpectations"? Sure you have, but have you actually reflected on your own? Your expectations influence your actions and your performance in the bedroom. One area in which men have set unrealistic expectations is the first date Many men think that it's likely to happen, but we hit the streets to ask women what they really think. Being a good lover means managing expectations and respecting hers.

Sexual Roma Story!

Mrs. Sue Fletcher was napping on the couch, so she didn't hear the large man enter the house through the kitchen door. He was feeling her up before she realized her privacy had been invaded. When her eyes fluttered open, he was leaning over her. He had a big work-callused hand between her legs and was cupping her crotch. "About time you woke up, Sleeping Beauty," he slurred, leering down at her with an obscene expression on his beard-stubbled face. His hot breath fairly reeked with whiskey.

"Ohmygod!" Sue gasped.

It was a warm spring day. Housework had made her hot and sweaty so, being alone, she had stripped down to her sheer nylon panties before lying down to rest. Out of modesty and fear, she attempted to cover her exposed breasts with her hands. Instinctively trying to protect her virtue, the young bride clamped shut her long, shapely legs. This only trapped the man's brazen hand between her creamy thighs and locked it tighter against her scantily clad groin.

"What are you doing here," she yelped, "at this ti-time of the day?" "Feeling your cunt, you sexy little wench," he said, increasing the pressure until she could feel the tips of his lewdly probing fingers stuffing the narrow strip of nylon into her crack.

"You're drunk!" she accused, forgetting her tits as she grabbed his muscular forearm and shoved futilely at it with all her might, which wasn't much because she was recuperating from a miscarriage and was still rather weak.

"Guess I am a little under the influence," he admitted, keeping at her. "Finished that remodeling job ahead of schedule. Me and the boys had a few to celebrate. Want some pussy now. Some of your pussy, Suzy baby. Open them legs and let old Hub pet that pretty little muff."

"No, Hub, don't," she whined, trying to reason with him. He was her stepfather-in-law. Her husband's mother was dead. She and Doug had moved in with his stepdad because Doug was attending college on the G.I. Bill and Sue had had to quit her job due to pregnancy. Hub had agreed to give the room and board in return for Sue's housekeeping services. "You mustn't treat me this way, Hub!" He hooked his powerful fingers under the secretion band of her nylon panties and yanked them down to her knees.

"Hub, no! Please! What's come over you? I'm your daughter-in-law! Your son's wife!"

"My stepson's wife," he corrected, whisking her underpants on down her legs and tugging them off over her flailing feet. "There's no blood relation between Doug and me. Wouldn't bother me none right now even if there was. Hot damn, just look at you. Only nineteen and pretty as they come. You're real tender stuff, Suzy baby. Come on now, be good to me. I ain't had no teen-age twat in years and years."

He flung away her panties, leaving her completely naked. She was still groggy from her nap, sort of dazed and confused. This sordid happening didn't seem real. Even as he pried her legs apart and started fondling her privates flesh to flesh, she still couldn't believe that her husband's stepfather would actually treat her in such a grossly vulgar manner. Oh, she knew he'd been lusting after her, all right, from the way she'd caught him looking at her when he thought no one noticed, but she'd never dreamed he would ever really try anything with her. "Hub, you'd better stop it," she warned him icily. "I'll tell Doug." "Think I give a crap?" he hooted, grinning lewdly as he held her down and probed the end of his thick middle finger into the moist warmth of her furry slot. "Tell him. If he don't like it, the two of you can move to hell out."

"Ooooh," she whimpered, as his knobby-knuckled finger embedded itself into her defenseless vagina. "Hub, you . . . you know we can't move out. We're broke, and we've got all those medical bills to pay!"

She could tell by his lecherous expression that pleading would do no good. Struggling didn't, either. Hub was a big, rough-cut man, six-foot-two, with the strength of a bull. He was a contractor who'd worked with his hands all his life. He could toss sacks of cement around like they weighed nothing. When Sue slapped him in desperation, he slapped her back and then imprisoned both her wrists in one of his hamlike hands. There was nothing she could do but lie there and let him abuse her. Tears of shame and humiliation overflowed her eyes as he held her helpless and stroked his knobby finger in and out of the feminine slit between her legs.

"Oh, please, Hub . . . nooh . . . please don't," she begged, blinking piteously up at him. "Leave me alone,damn it!"

"You've paraded that cute little ass in front of me once too often, baby. The teasing's over. It's time to pay up."

"I never teased you!" she wailed, attempting to scoot up and disimpale herself from his passion-provoking finger. She had to get free of it, because his indecent manipulations were getting to her against her will.

"Bullshit, you never teased me," he barked. "How about all the times you've sashayed around in them shortie nightgowns, switching your bottom and rolling them baby-blue eyes my way?" "I-I . . ." her voice trailed off. She couldn't deny his accusation. Her only defense was a plaintive whine of, "I just didn't th-think. I never did it to tease you. I didn't, I didn't! Honest, I didn't!" "The devil you didn't. Maybe you didn't realize how you were affecting me, but I think you did. No matter now. You've got my tongue hanging out, whether you meant to do it or not, you little cock-teaser, and I mean to cut me a piece of you, here and now!"

"But Doug!"
"Piss on Doug!"

In addition to finger-fucking her, he leaned over and orally engulfed one of her tender pink nipples. His lips tightened around the tumescent aureole and he sucked down hard, scrubbing the sensitive nipple itself with the roughened upper surface of his tongue. The wet heat of his hungrily suctioning mouth sent an unwanted thrill arching through her. "Ooooh . . . oh, nooh," she pleaded, thrashing about in a desperate attempt to break free. It was no use. Her strength didn't compare to his. He overpowered her and held her defenseless as he went from one erogenous coral cone to the other, pleasuring them with his mouth while his thick finger jabbed incessantly within her responsively secreting gap.

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