Seduction secrets of the French

 When it comes to seduction, French women believe they have it down to a fine art.
And now they are set to share the secret of their success as Soft Paris, France's answer to Ann Summers, launches in the UK.   
The firm, which organises home parties selling lingerie, boudoir accessories and sex toys, say their ethos is to encourage women to explore their sexuality and teach them secrets to rekindle their relationships. 

1. It's all in your walk

Why do English women hunch over, either shuffling or stomping? This is not seductive. Take the time to look around you, proudly, chin up/shoulders back, walking with one foot almost in front of the other, to undulate your hips provocatively.

2. Be feline

Don't be a slobbery, noisy, bounding English bulldog. Imagine you’re an elegant cat - light, agile, graceful, quiet. Seduction is about understanding the effects of your movements and using them to your advantage.

3. Be a lady

When a gentleman holds your coat out for you, do not take it from him, let him dress you. Allow doors to be held open and seats pulled out.
Be elegant, always. Don’t hold your glass of wine as if it's a pint of beer, French women lightly hold the top of the glass stem. Know how to handle all objects well.

4. Say goodbye to tights

Instead opt for stockings and suspenders, but make sure he is watching when you put them on - give him a show. Slip them on slowly with long strokes and finish off by snapping the elastic on the top of your thighs.

5. Use him

Although we could reach the zip on the back of our dresses if we really wanted to, allow him the privilege instead. It can be as seductive to dress a woman, as it is to undress her.

6. Give your lingerie drawer a makeover

Get rid of the Bridget Jones knickers and replace with black lace, ribbon trims, suspenders and waist cinching corsets. Your face should reveal what you’re wearing beneath your clothes, creating a subtle smile, the only clue to your your saucy secret. 

7. Go to bed dressed (or undressed) like a star

Forget the fleece pyjamas and bed socks. Opt for a sheer babydoll and a satin robe. It won’t stay on for long…

8. Be sweet

Wear scented and edible crème so your entire body is lickable. He’ll want to make you dessert.

9. Flirt shamelessly

Even though he may be your husband, never stop seducing. At a dinner party, under the table, take his hand and slowly stroke it along your thigh, leading up to your suspenders. Send naughty texts while he is at work. Intimacy doesn’t have to stay at home…

10. A toy box is not just for the kids

Be playful, adventurous and uninhibited. Start by exploring and learning your own body, before moving on to your loved one. Intimate toys can create bedroom fireworks.

Ideal Girl!

Why Every Man Can Become More Attractive To Women

 

Chances are your ideal girl really isn't. It sounds like you're so attached to her as an ideal you can't see her as a person anymore"

 Imagine how you'd feel if your dream girl said she might "settle" for you. She had someone better in mind, but he was out of reach, so with reluctance she decided you'd have to do. Belittled? Inadequate? Pathetic? Don't do that to someone else.

OK, so you want this ideal girl? Chances are she probably isn't the one you think she is -- but that doesn't mean the journey is pointless. It could be the wake-up call you need.

One of the wonderful and horrendously unfair things about being a man is you have huge opportunity to increase your own attractiveness. Whilst women tend to be judged more by their looks, men tend to be judged more by who and what they are. That's good news for you, especially with your current attitude -- the scope for improvement is likely massive.

Firstly, forget about chasing women. They don't find desperation attractive, and you need your concentration elsewhere. Notice the most attractive guys rarely if ever chase. Notice the least attractive are whiny, clingy and fawning. Don't be one of them.

Now you need to craft a personal mission to improve yourlife This will be deeply personal to you, but generally you'll want to make the most of your health, wealth, appearance, social awareness and develop a broad range of interests and skills. This is not a 20-minute exercise, and if you need one of those, you probably should go back to feeling miserable.

Some examples:

-Volunteer: give blood, teach, build a shelter
-Take a dance class
-Skydive
-Learn to cook
-Travel somewhere life-altering
-Take up a sport and get good at it
-Join a book club
-Learn about Body Language and human psychology
-Seek out the best media -- music, film, books -- and develop a deep understanding of them
-Learn a magic trick
-Start a company
-Try public speaking
-Learn to dress well
-Raise money for a good cause
-Start a creative project -- like a short film, a single or a short story
-Learn a musical instrument
-Make a crap-ton of money
-Run Marathon

Do something to inspire others. Do something to inspire yourself. You'll quite literally be a better person, and a damn sight more attractive. Your life should be a testament to greatness, not a self-piteous whine.

Chances are your ideal girl really isn't. It sounds like you're so attached to her as an ideal you can't see her as a person anymore, and clinging on to that thought is only making you depressed. You need to direct those energies elsewhere.

You and you alone hold the power to turn it around and make something more of yourself. Your life is your story to write -- and the hero always gets the girl.

From AskMen

Men Raped By Women

Of course, the much more important question here isn't medical; it's criminal. Can a woman rape a man?" The headline jumped out at me from CNN.com, and I clicked through fast: “3 Women in Zimbabwe Charged in Series of Sex Attacks on Men.”

My impulse to click was exactly the reaction CNN’s web team had targeted. But I read the article for a reason other than sexual curiosity. It was more a medical question: Can a woman really rape a man? What if he ejaculates? Is this rape?

The news story was this: Three women in their 20s were charged with raping 17 men in Zimbabwe and keeping their sperm in condoms for some sort of health-related ritual. (That logic is reason enough for the world to step up efforts to educate girls.) The young women apparently used drugs and raped the men at gunpoint. In regard to men raped by women, this is where the medical question popped into my head.

Can Men Come In A Stressful Situation?

We all know that a woman can certainly be raped while drugged and full of terror, but a man, well, a man has to sort of function to complete the task. But can he function on drugs or at gunpoint? I know men who can’t even pee if someone is watching.

Not convinced that a Google search would yield my answer, I decided to go to a real authority: my predominantly male Facebook page. There is a nice cross section of the male body (pun intended) among my 5,000 friends, so I knew they would have the answers. Not surprisingly, the comment stream was long. At the beginning, my male friends were as confused as I. Some dismissed the whole notion that this was a rape.

“Unless you are a straight man with dudes forcing sex on you, you can’t be raped,” said one. “You can’t rape the willing,” said another. More than a couple said they couldn’t comment because they were busy booking a ticket to Africa.

So, I brought up the drug and gunpoint thing again. Was ejaculation possible under such circumstances? The answers were mixed.

What Guys Think About Men Raped By Women

“If you’re scared and drugged, you're not going to orgasm.”

“I don't agree. If a man is stimulated, he would ejaculate regardless of ‘willing’ or not.”

“It's not uncommon, since men produce sperm when intoxicated.”

Then came a true voice of wisdom. One of my Facebook friends teaches at a medical school and tells me this very question is sometimes on medical board exams. So here’s how the professor weighed in:

“Ejaculation is a spinal level reflex; it can happen. I have seen it happen in people having seizures or read documented evidence that it happens during hanging too. It's even a question asked on med boards often enough whether a tetraplegic can ejaculate. It's my understanding that as long as the sympathetic nervous arc is intact, one can come. For erection it's a parasympathetic one, and it's influenced by the higher centers, i.e. erotic thoughts, etc.”

Thanks, Doc. In household language, he’s basically saying that an erection isn’t necessary to produce sperm. Got it.

Of course, the much more important question here isn’t medical; it’s criminal. Can a woman rape a man?  Yes. If someone does not agree to have sex with another and a sexual act is forced upon them, that is called rape. And it is clearly illegal, hopefully as much in Africa as in North America.

 

From Askwomen

Habits that ruin relationships

Avoid Relationship Drama

If you want to avoid major drama in your relationship, resist the seven habits below that are known to ruin otherwise healthy relationships. 

Criticizing his family

No matter how you feel about your boyfriend's family, making it known to him just how much they drive you crazy is bound to drive an irreparable wedge into your relationship. Even if he, himself, thinks his relatives are bonkers, no one likes to hear others bash their blood relatives, so it's best to hold your tongue when the subject of his family comes up.

Spying

You may think you're doing yourself a favor by keeping up constant surveillance your boyfriend's blog, Facebook and Twitter habits; however by being aware of the minutiae of his whereabouts and thoughts, you're more likely to overanalyze his habits as they relate to your relationship and do more harm than good.

Fighting in public

It's natural for couples to have the occasional argument, especially after being together for any significant amount of time; however, fights that become so uncontrollable that they regularly spill out into the open are an embarrassing and damaging relationship problem that should be nixed.

Letting yourself go

Not only is it bad for your health and overall well-being, but letting yourself go -- whether that means gaining weight or not caring about your appearance -- after settling into a relationship is one habit that sends a bad message to your partner: if you stop caring about yourself, he may assume that you've stopped caring about him too.

Trying to improve him

Many women think they are helping the men that they're with by trying to make them over, however, by doing so, they only end up causing more problems for the relationship. Think of men as being similar to dogs: they may be able to learn a new trick or two over the course of a relationship, but if you think you can turn in a pit bull into a poodle, you are going to be in for a whole lot of heartbreak.

Allowing problems to fester

Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship; however, if in your quest to avoid creating drama in your relationship, you frequently allow things that upset you to go unsaid, you are doing yourself and your partner a great disservice. Good communication is the cornerstone of any happy, long-term coupling.

 

US scientists say baby born with HIV cured !

A baby girl who was born with HIV has been cured after very early treatment with standard drug therapy, US researchers have said, in a potentially groundbreaking case that could help eradicate HIV infection in its youngest victims.
Specialists made the announcement on Sunday at a major AIDS meeting in the US city of Atlanta.
"This is a proof of concept that HIV can be potentially curable in infants," said Dr. Deborah Persaud, a virologist at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, who presented the findings.
The baby girl was born in a rural hospital in the state of Mississippi and her mother had just tested positive for HIV infection.
A team of doctors at the University of Mississippi Medical Centre in Jackson then put the infant on a cocktail of three standard HIV-fighting drugs when she was just 30 hours old.
That fast action apparently knocked out the HIV in the baby's blood before it could form reservoirs in the body.
The new findings could be especially critical for AIDS-plagued African countries where many babies are born with the virus, researchers said.
"You could call this about as close to a cure, if not a cure, that we've seen,'' Dr. Anthony Fauci of the National Institutes of Health, who is familiar with the findings, told The Associated Press.
'Berlin patient'
The child's story is different from the now famous case of Timothy Ray Brown, the so-called "Berlin patient," whose HIV infection was completely eradicated through an elaborate treatment for leukemia in 2007.
Instead of Brown's costly treatment, the Mississippi baby's case involved the use of a cocktail of widely available drugs already used to treat HIV infection in infants.
More testing needs to be done to see if the treatment would have the same effect on other children, but the results could change the way high-risk babies are treated and possibly lead to a cure for children with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS.

Persaud's team is now planning a study to try to prove that, with more aggressive treatment of other high-risk babies.

No one should stop anti-AIDS drugs as a result of this case, Fauci cautioned. But "it opens up a lot of doors'' to research if other children can be helped, he said. "It makes perfect sense what happened.''
Better than treatment is to prevent babies from being born with HIV in the first place.
About 300,000 children were born with HIV in 2011, mostly in poor countries where only about 60 percent of infected pregnant women get treatment that can keep them from passing the virus to their babies.
In the US, such births are very rare because HIV testing and treatment long have been part of prenatal care.
Dr. Rowena Johnston, vice president and director of research for the Foundation for AIDS Research, which helped fund the study, said the fact that the cure was achieved by antiretroviral therapy alone makes it "imperative that we learn more about a newborn's immune system, how it differs from an adult's and what factors made it possible for the child to be cured." from aljazera