Women On Why They’re Saying No to Sex

More and more women are choosing to put sex on hold in favor of self-love, and because of it, they’re more confident than ever. Read their testimonies!

It's Complicated

It’s true: Sex can, and often does, complicate things. More and more of our readers are speaking out about holding on to their v-cards and choosing to embark on periods of abstinence or celibacy until marriage. Yes, they’re putting sex on the back burner to focus on other things — like themselves. Although their reasons vary, one sentiment remains the same — it’s not about what a fella wants; it’s all about what a girl wants. We asked our Facebook fans why they’re saying no to sex.

My Body Is Too Valuable

“I’m celibate because I’m trying to have a closer relationship with God and His will for my life. I believe I am too valuable to give my body and the best years of my life to anyone who is not planning to commit to me. So until I meet my husband, it's locked, and the key is thrown away.” —First Lady Washington

The Bible Tells Me So

“I choose to wait because I want to do what the Bible says and not what the world says. I want to save my body for my husband and not be worn out by the time I get married.” —Valencia

Because I Demand Respect

“I’m choosing to be celibate until marriage. You have to demand respect for a real man to take you seriously. Any joker can feed you a dream. I have faith there are great men out there, but being celibate weeds out the bad ones. Besides, your body is a temple. I wish I could tell a lot of girls that sex before marriage is not the way.” —Jazz

I Want to Focus On Me

“After allowing myself to be hurt by men numerous times, I decided to become celibate. It actually feels good. I am able to identify my needs and to focus on myself instead of other people’s perception of me. I am able to have a better relationship and connection with God. At first, it was challenging, but now I am loving me a whole lot more!” —Krystal

For My Future Husband Only

“I’m celibate because I’m rebuilding my relationship with God, and I was tired of men taking advantage of a gift intended for my husband. Too many people are being careless in their sexual lives. I love myself and want to live worry free.” —Amy

I’m Strengthening My Mind

“Celibacy and abstinence test your ability to be patient with yourself and to control impulse desires. Being able to sustain from something that just about every human being desires, like sex, is the ultimate test of mental strength. It's so easy to give in to sex because it's everywhere, and to not choose to indulge until you are ready takes a lot of patience and focus. Sex is not everything, and as you mature and grow into yourself, it does not become your number one priority anymore. Finding peace within myself has become a necessity, and I am still searching for it.” —Chana