New Year, Better Sex!

Resolution time is here and we have some good ones for you to add to your list. You may already have a few New Year’s resolutions in mind, from exercising more to giving up junk food, but these ones are a little different. Check out top three must-try resolutions for having better sex this year. 

Love your body

It's a lot harder to have great sex if all you're thinking about is your waist, hip or thigh size. This year, resolve to love your body. We know it's not easy – we all have hang-ups about how we look, but having a more positive body image can help you in life as well as in the bedroom. The better you feel about yourself (all of yourself), the more confident you're going to be. Confidence is key when it comes to really enjoying sex. It might not be easy to immediately start singing the praises of all your parts, but give it a try. Every time you sense a negative thought brewing, counter it with something positive. The more you do this, the easier it will get and the better you'll feel.

Ask for what you want

Asking for what you want when it comes to sex isn't always easy and if you've shied away from being upfront about all of your likes and dislikes, this is the year to change that. Trust us; your experience will improve greatly if you can get more comfortable telling your guy what you want in bed. There's no need to be demanding or make him feel like he's doing something wrong, but he will appreciate knowing what does turn you on and what he can do more of. Make this year the year of getting exactly what you want between the sheets!

Be bolder in the bedroom

If your love life needs a lift, this is the year to start being bolder in the bedroom. Start small (have sex with the lights on, in a different room, at a different time) and work your way up to being even bolder. You don't have to go too far outside your comfort zone, but trying new things can really go a long way in spicing up your sex life. We suggest getting started right away (what better way to ring in the New Year?) and adding something new to your repertoire every month (or more often). You and your guy are sure to see an improvement in your sex life and you'll feel much more confident between the sheets. Happy New Year, indeed!

Look sexy naked!

Though we may not be too critical of our partner's flaws -- after all, our lover is only human -- most women excel at seeing even the most minute problems with our own bodies. And that perception can make it really difficult to share ourselves with one of the people we love the most.

Grooming... down there

And don't forget to groom the hair down there! Accessorize your bikini line with crystals or have it waxed into a playful shape. Or, for those who prefer to go u natural, just a quick trim with scissors can make all the difference.
 

Get confident 

Lastly, don't forget to enjoy yourself. Remember, if you feel sexy and fabulous, you will look it -- even in the buff... and confidence is, after all, the ultimate sexiness! Smile, practice good posture and have a positive attitude!

Limit your food & drink

While it might seem like a good idea to calm your nerves by having a nice large meal or downing a couple of glasses of wine for that extra "liquid" courage, eat and drink only lightly before stripping down to the nude. (Otherwise you will risk looking bloated... like you're pregnant with a food baby.)

sex positions for mind-blowing orgasms!

O, yes

I always thought it was a myth that there are certain sex positions that can help a woman climax faster and better. Say it isn't so? If this is true, why haven't we been schooling our men? I took my inquiry to the sex-perts and uncovered that there are, in fact, such positions. Obviously, I'm going to share them with you -- that way, we can all be having the best sex of our lives! Read on for the top 10 sex positions for achieving mind-blowing orgasms.

The butterfly position or modified missionary

With the woman on her back and her hips on the edge of the bed, the man penetrates her while standing. She then puts her legs over his shoulders and tilts her hips slightly upwards. This gives a wonderful angle for cervical stimulation with deep penetration that can produce some intense vaginal and uterine orgasms. With more shallow penetration, a man can stimulate the anterior vaginal wall to hit the G-spot."

--Dr. Madeleine M. Castellanos, a psychiatrist who specializes in sex therapy

Modified coital alignment technique

 

"A couple starts off in missionary position. Once a man penetrates a woman deeply, he allows her to bring her legs together between his. He then shifts his weight slightly forward so that the shaft of his erection is producing firm pressure and friction on her clitoris as he moves. This works very well for women that prefer to have clitoral stimulation during penetration to reach a very powerful orgasm."

--Dr. Castellanos

The counter top

 "This is my favorite. It's when the woman is laying on her back on the counter or table while he enters standing. It's rough. There's pushing aside of papers, pepper shakers which add to the sense of urgency and inappropriateness. It's easy to maneuver and move the woman to slide along the counter. There is still contact. He goes deep and feels in control. It works all the way around. The keys are clothing, stuff in the way, and being in an open space. Still allows for connection while feeling dirty. It just works on so many levels. It's not about acrobats. It's about context."
--Margaret Wagner, sex expert and founder of Bedroom Matters

 

The seated scissors

 "This position allows the woman to have the control in order to determine the depth and angle of penetration, as well as how much clitoral stimulation she gets. With the man laying flat on his back and his knees bent, she straddles him with one leg to the side of his hip, and the other leg between his legs. The woman can then find just the right spot to grind against his pubic bone with him inside her. She controls the pace, the depth, and the amount of pressure and friction she receives. This is definitely a prescription for mind-blowing sex!" 

 

Get off, stand up

 

 "I'm no [pro], but whenever I've had sex standing up and holding my partner in the air or up against the wall, it's been mind-blowing for both of us. I suspect it taps into some of our innate gender differences: the strong man and the small woman, which in turn heightens the sexual experience. It also forces us to be in a full embrace, which furthers the emotional connection, as well as our physical one. It's physically demanding and not for all couples but for those that can, it's highly recommended."
--Jim, an experienced heterosexual male

 

Pushing tush

 "If your guy enjoys having his back door explored, reach around with both hands and grab both cheeks. From there, you can do 'Butt Yoga' (a technique whereby you spread the cheeks apart, then together, one up one down then vice versa) or 'Anal Yoga' (a technique whereby you place your middle fingers to the sides of the anus then spread them apart, then diagonally, then up and down). If that gets him hankering for more, feel free to delve deeper."
--Jaiya

 

Happy scissors

 "Heating up hot spots aren't your hands-only talents. They're also great at moving body parts where you want them, and this technique is a prime opportunity. During intercourse, raise your legs, then have your man hold an ankle in each hand. From there, you can spread her legs apart, hold them together, part them at 80 degrees, the options are endless. And since the tendons of the legs pivot deep in the pelvic cavity, moving them around will subtly alter the below-the-belt sensations for you both. Talk about getting a leg up on a little variety!"
--Jaiya

Robot prostitutes: The future of sex?

Sex has changed a lot in the public sphere over the decades, but if some researchers in New Zealand have it their way, things are about to get a lot more electronic. Yep, we're taking it there.

Yeah, because that's not creepy at all, right?

 

That's right, ladies, sex robots. Not the least bit creepy, right?
According to a Fox News article, researchers in New Zealand recently released a study -- called Robots, Men And Sex Tourism -- predicting the release of lifelike sex robots in brothels. The estimated arrival of these sex gods? 2050. The inspiration? Guilt-free, safe sex.

Before we share our opinion on this one, shall we say interesting topic, let's take a look at what these brothels will supposedly look like in 2050. Fox News says the study envisions them as "modern and gleaming with about 100 scantily clad blondes and brunettes parading around in exotic G-strings and lingerie." Wow.

And we're sure men want to know: What will a romp with an electronic goddess cost? $9,500 will get you an "all-inclusive service" that includes lap dances and intercourse, and the menu of ladies they can choose from will range in ethnicity, body shape, age, sexual features and languages. Another plus? The study predicts that robot prostitution will help put an end to all the human trafficking going on in the sex industry.

Ok, now our opinion. We're all for putting an end to human trafficking and sure, sex with a lifeless robot might save tons of men from an unwanted pregnancy or a nasty STD, but are we the only ones that find the concept a bit strange? Like the ladies on the talk show The Talk asked today: Who is in charge of cleaning these robots? (Side note: We shudder at the thought) And won't this encourage more men to stray from their women? But enough about us, we want to know: 
Does the concept of a sex robot creep you out?

27 CHARACTERISTICS­ OF LOVING MEN!

1. Always calls you to find out how you day is going.

2. Will feel terrible when he forgets your birthday or anniversary and will always make it up to you.

3. Surprises you with gifts, even when the occasion is not special.

4. Tells you regularly that he loves you.
5. Knows how to make love to you.

6. Knows how to caress, hug, kiss and fulfill your heart’s romantic desires.

7. Feels your pain when you go through hard times.

8. Loves to see you happy and rejoices with you.

9. Always makes quality time to spend with you.

10. Will never physically or emotionally abuse you.

11. Will marry you without waiting too long.

12. Will forgive and forget when you apologize for hurting his feelings.

13. Will not use your weaknesses or secrets against you.

14. Will not air your dirty laundry.

15. Is patient and willing to work on your relationship problems.

16. Knows that it is important for you to spend time with your friends and family members.

17. Will not cheat on you.

18. Will not flirt with your girlfriends to the point of annoying you.

19. Will not go out of his way to make you jealous.

20. Will always respect you in the presence of his friends and family members.

21. Always helps you with chores around the house.

22. Enjoys the company of your family and friends.

23. Supports your dreams and ambitions.

24. Never puts you down when talking to you.

25. Cares a great deal about your thoughts, feelings and opinions.

26. Is always available to help when you need him.

27. Knows that his way is not the only way.

MEN: Like and share if you pose any of the above characteristics­

WOMEN: Like and share If you would love a man with any of the above characteristics

Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex!

 

1. We Respond to Praise
It’s believed that men are so consumed by our libido that we have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look), and after (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look naked). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.

 

2. We Fear Intimacy…
…but not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At that time, social repression begins—of words, thoughts, feelings—and our desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it’s smothering, but because we realize how desperate we are for it. What’s a woman to do? First, understand that your guy’s hasty retreat post-sex may be about his own shock at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much he’s denied it in life). Then, retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his boyhood habits are, in fact, perfectly manly.

 

3. We Appreciate Sex for Sex’s Sake
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the right medicine. According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist and sexologist, “Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her.” On occasion, try letting him ravish you.

 

4. We Are Not Just Our…
The penis gets all the press, but men have “many erogenous zones,” says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. “Men tend not to correct women because they’re afraid women will shut down and not touch them at all. But there are many places a woman should touch.” Like the chest, the inner thighs and face. Two other key areas: Gently gripping a man’s testicles can be a real turn-on, as it blends control with release. Also, stimulating the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.

 

5. We Encourage Fantasies
“Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them,” says Dr. Kort. Similarly, Dr. Schaefer reports that men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, Dr. Kort recommends asking the author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.

 

6. We Like It When You Talk
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and instructive are great starts. As amusing as it may sound, a woman’s words can make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, even if he’s a suburban banker.

 

7. We Need Your Honesty
Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it’s often where the stresses show up. If we complain about a lack of sex (or your doing certain things only on our birthday), we may be overlooking serious issues that underpin such withholding. We need you to enlighten us. The male ego is often tied to sex, so it’s easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than issues we have a part in. Avoiding these problems, however, only perpetuates your feeling unseen and our frustration.

 

8. We Enjoy the Dance
Men like a good quest; unfortunately, these days, there are so few. But romance earns that distinction. Allow us to court you; make us deserve your desire. Dr. Kort makes an additional point: “Emotional intimacy is about closeness, but sustaining sexual desire demands a certain amount of distance.” How do couples strike this tricky balance? By allowing each partner to have what he calls “separate sexuality”: a sexual life that doesn’t include, but doesn’t betray, the other. “For him, that might mean allowing his wife to use toys or letting other men look at her; for her, it might be permitting him to watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy.” Such indulgences help maintain the balance of desire and devotion for both parties.

 

9. We Can Explain Pornography
Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, says Dr. Kort, but it shouldn’t be overreacted to or pathologized. A few things to clear up: 1. Sex addicts represent only 4 percent of the population, so it’s unlikely your man is one. 2. Because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on. In other words, says Dr. Kort, “no woman can, nor should she, be everything to a man.” Still, the question remains: How does a woman not take pornography personally? First, determine if your mate is compulsive, or can only have sex, with pornography. If so, you may want to seek counseling. If not, Dr. Kort recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography by discussing it. Use the lens of “what about it turns him on versus what turns you off.” That way, a dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity and closeness.

 

10. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this. “Men see sex as a celebration,” says Dr. Schaefer. “They wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It’s easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it should not be on the bottom rung.” If that doesn’t make you want to “seize the day” (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.

How To Fall In Love All Over Again!

Don't let negative emotions ruin your relationship!

Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and take yourself back to the very first time you experienced a feeling of love with the person you're in a relationship with now. Allow yourself to re-experience the emotions, the sights, the sounds, the tastes and the smells you first experienced ... just as if it is happening again right now. 

Stay there for a moment and allow yourself to feel where in your body you first felt that emotional feeling of love. Is it in your heart? Is it in your head?  Is it on your lips? Focus on what your mind was focused on then. Is it the feeling of your heart pounding? Is it how you just seem to melt as your bodies fit together like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle?
Notice how good it feels to be emotionally present with the one you love. What questions run through your mind? Did you find yourself asking, 'Is this what love feels like? Will this feeling last? Is it really possible to fall in love again?'

Did you find it easy to take yourself back and re-experience that falling in love feeling again? Has it been a while since you felt that feeling of love? Which emotions have you been feeling instead? Fear? Guilt? Anger? Anxiety? Jealousy? Frustration? Resentment? Disappointment? 
Do you frequently initiate conversations and interactions in a negative emotional state? Or, are you the one dodging the toxic emotions as they are launched at you by the one you love? Has it happened so often for so long that it's just too difficult to tell? Are you concerned that your love and your relationship are being destroyed as a result? 

Our emotions are like most things. They're not bad, except in excess. It is natural to experience anger, fear, anxiety, disappointment, resentment, judgment, and guilt ... on occasion. However, negative emotions become all-consuming, toxic, and devastating to our emotional health and our intimate relationships if we fail to deal with them effectively.

Step 1
Take personal responsibility for your emotions. Blaming someone else for your emotions, how you feel, or the emotional state of your relationship isn't the responsible thing to do.

Step 2
Shift your focus, your emotions and emotional state by making a conscious decision to focus on what you love, appreciate and are grateful for about your relationship. Make a list of your top 10 relationship moments. Keep your list with you at all times. Make it a habit to take 10 minutes each day for a mental vacation to one of your top 10 relationship moments.
Allow yourself to re-experience all the positive feelings you initially experienced in it. Your brain can't tell the difference between a real experience and a memory and will release all your "feel-good hormones" as if you are really there in that moment. Notice how much more positive you begin to feel the more you practice this ritual. It's absolutely true that what you focus on you feel and get more of!

Step 3: After you've done steps one and two faithfully for at least 30 days, re-read this article and be notice how much easier it is to feel that falling in love feeling again and again.

How to Get a Guy to Like You!

The real secret behind knowing how to get a guy to like you is exceedingly simple. But yet, it’s not easy to follow.

So we know the real secret here, guys always want what they can’t have.

But how are you going to be that?

How can a girl who likes a guy, make that guy think she’s a gorgeous goddess who’s just too hard to get?

Quite tricky, yes, but definitely doable!

How to get a guy to like you

What do you do when you like a guy and want him to like you back? You drop a few hints and bat your eyelid at him. And big chances are, it works most of the time.

Well, it’s all good so far. But at times, it can fail. He may just not like you back. So instead of leaving your love lines to fate and chance, it’s always better to step it up a notch and do something else.

Instead of telling him that you like him very much, why not get the guy to like you and ask you out instead?!

Guys and their mind

Through the ages, men have always taken great risks to take what they want, be it glory, land, food or women, not necessarily in that order.

As much as guys say they like getting things the easy way, they never really appreciate the true value of something that they can get without a fight. It’s the law of nature, and luckily, it’s yours to wield.

Try these tips yourself, and you’ll see that he’s start noticing you a lot more

Give him your attention

When you’re talking to him, stare back at him as he talks. Do that in a cute way, not in a you’ve-got-something-in-your-teeth way. That would just make him feel uncomfortable. And when he’s doing something with his own friends or sitting by himself working on something, glance at him now and then. And let him see you do that.

Guys like it when a girl gives them attention. By giving him more attention than you’re giving other guys, he’ll wonder if you’re interested in him, or just being friendly.

And that’s exactly what a girl needs to do. You need to get his attention and make him look at you as something more than just a friend. Remember, curiosity kills cats, but it makes guys think funny!

Impress his friends

Whenever you get to meet a good friend of his or bump into his group of friends, stay a while and chat with them. Be warm and sweet, and at times, even border on mild flirting. Floor his friends with your wit and sweetness, and they will fall in love with you.

And when they meet the guy you like, they’re obviously going to tell him what an awesome girl you are. By turning his friends into your evangelists, he’d start to notice how special and coveted you actually are.

Ask about him

When you’re having a conversation with his friends, ask about him. But don’t constantly talk about him, it would make you look too easy to get. Just a passing word asking how he is or where he is should do. If his friends tell him that you asked about him, he would be confused and yet, warm and fuzzy knowing that you’ve given him a thought.

Flirt with other guys

You may be in love with him, but if you really want to get a guy to like you, you need to stick with a few rules. Never make it look easy. When he’s around, talk to him but don’t ignore the other guys. When he’s around, especially when he’s around, flirt with other guys and don’t save all your flirting for the guy you like.

Remember, you haven’t told him you like him. You’re only making him curious about you. By flirting back with other guys, you’re letting the guy you like know that he needs to try harder to get your attention when there are other guys around.

By doing that, he’d panic and wonder if you really liked him in the first place. And yet, his bruised ego would make him try harder to get your attention. At times, he may also sulk and stand aside silently, to try and get your attention.

Don’t make it so easy for him. Ignore him for a while, and then, go close to him and give him your full attention. By blowing hot and cold now and then, it would confuse him, and make him crave for your attention!

There are three more features that you should definitely read if you want to know how to get a guy to like you. Try these tips, and see the guy you like trail you like a lovestruck puppy!

Getting What You Want in Bed!

You like long foreplay sessions. Your partner is ready to go in an instant. You long for wet, sensual kisses. He prefers dry, chaste pecks. Your partner needs sex twice a day. You can't handle it more than three times a week.

Even when everything else in the relationship is working, sexual styles aren't always compatible. That's especially true for new couples.

"Sex is not just naturally perfect," Alman says. "There is the energy of a new relationship that is positive -- the excitement and the eagerness and the passion. And the negative is that you bump noses or knees because you just haven't learned how to dance together yet."

Even long-term couples can struggle in the bedroom. Though we can easily tell our partner what shirt we'd like them to wear, or what we'd like them to cook for dinner, on the topic of sex we tend to get tongue-tied.

So how do you tell your partner what you want without bruising his or her ego? "I think it's really in how you bring up the statement," Levkoff says. "'I would love it if we' ... or, 'Could we try this?' ... You don't want to make them feel badly about what they've done or haven't done." You can have that conversation in bed, or at dinner over a glass of wine -- wherever is most comfortable for you.

Before you talk, you need to know exactly what about your sex life bothers you. Is it a question of technique? Personal hygiene? Timing? "Once you know what isn't working for you, there are ways you can suggest that can mitigate those circumstances," Alman says.

For example, if something about your partner's smell is turning you off, suggest taking a bath together before making love. If you crave more foreplay, ask for slower segues into sex.

Before you can tell your partner what you want him/her to do in bed, you need to know what you like. "I think especially for women, they've got to explore their own bodies. You have to masturbate. Get a vibrator. 

Get some books. Teach yourself how to orgasm," Sussman says.

Once you've figured out what you want and shared it with your partner, what if your sex life continues to be dull or unfulfilling? What if it's so bad that it's threatening your relationship?

When It's Just Not Working

Sometimes the problem is a physical one, such as premature ejaculation. Or it may be that the stress from your job is bleeding over into the bedroom and disrupting your sex life.

In those cases it can help to see a sex therapist. "We unravel why you two are not getting along," Alman says. "And then we try to remedy that."

If you're still unsatisfied, is it ever OK to fake it in bed? Our experts say no.

"If you're faking it, you're doing yourself a disservice because you're not learning what really turns you on," Sussman says. "I think eventually, it takes a toll. Your partner's going to realize that you're disconnected."

Can sex ever be bad enough to consider ending a relationship over? Possibly.

"You might really love somebody and the sex is never going to be better than OK. You have to decide whether that's livable with," Alman says. "The fact is, in many cases you have to either accept that the sex is never going to be mind-blowing ... or you have to leave."

Whenever you're considering a breakup or divorce , you need to weigh every element of the relationship, and not just the sex. "You can't have everything in life," Sussman says. "If you have a wonderful relationship and you love each other and you have kids but the sex isn't great ... maybe you can live with that."

In most cases, though, you shouldn't have to break up or settle for mediocre sex, as long as you're willing to put a little effort into it. Sussman says every couple has the potential to have good sex.

"If you're two emotionally and physically healthy people, you should be able to work with what you've got. Not everybody needs to be hanging off the chandelier," Sussman says. "You can get better. But you have to practice, and you have to be open to discussing it and getting help when you need it."

The science of kissing!

A kiss isn’t as innocent as you might think. The act of locking lips sets off a chain of biological and psychological reactions. It informs the brain of your desire and determines your emotional attachment to the other person. Neurobiology specialist Dr. Lucy Vincent, author of Amour de A à XY (Love from A to XY), tells us more about the  science of kissing.

A decisive moment

A kiss is like having your first time all over again. There’s a before and an after. “Kissing alters everything. It’s a turning point in your relationship with someone,” Dr. Lucy Vincent explains. Just before you touch lips, you’re just two individuals, but afterwards your relationship with each other will have changed.

Why? “Kissing is a way of testing out a specific type of physical intimacy that’s different from sex,” our expert says. Mutual physical attraction triggers a desire in you to taste the other person, getting past the natural repulsion at coming into contact with someone else’s saliva. It’s a way of sealing the deal, and in a way epitomises the true meaning of sexual intimacy. 

Hormones and sexual desire

We’re no longer ignorant of the biological mechanisms behind eroticism, and kissing has its own particular function. The way kissing works is centred around a few complex biological reactions that are influenced by both personality and hormones.

Exchanging saliva is important, as it contains a wealth of information about the other person. The different hormones involved in creating sexual desire (including testosterone and oestrogen) are brought together during a kiss. “Testosterone is a key motivation behind sex drive, and kissing works like a trigger for the desire to make love,” Lucy Vincent tells us.

The hormone oestrogen also plays a determining factor in your relationship with someone. Our desire to become attached and invest emotionally in a relationship is partly driven by individual personality traits, but is also connected to the levels of oestrogen in the saliva.

A kiss communicates your intentions clearly at the beginning, both in terms of sexual desire and also how attached you want to become to the other person.

look good the morning after the night before!

How to wake up picture perfect

As the birds begin to sing, or the traffic rumbles below, your eyes snap open; but you’re not sure about where you are exactly. Then as you pull off the sheets you turn over to find a gorgeous guy sleeping soundly next you. At that moment, you catch sight of yourself in the mirror and there’s no easy way to say it: you look hideous. Your make-up from last night has smeared down your face and there are drool marks on your chin. To make sure you look good the next time you wake up next to a cute guy read these top tips.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Go waterproof

Although you may go to bed looking gorgeous and glam, come the morning that smoky eye make-up will make you look like you’re auditioning for a part in Corpse Bride 2. As you’re getting ready the night before bear in mind what the future may hold for you and remember you may be waking up next to a hot man when the sun rises. Use waterproof mascara and eyeliner when you get ready and this should help you stay looking good throughout those passionate, night time sessions and the deep, post-sex sleep. Or to avoid the mess of mascara all together you could always book an appointment for an eyelash tint.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Get the jelly

Who knew what a small tub of Vaseline could do? If you want to look good the morning after the night before you need to carry some at all times. Firstly, as you sneak into the bathroom use Vaseline to smooth and freshen up your eyebrows. Then if you’re make-up is difficult to remove and you have no alternative, use tissue paper and Vaseline to take off any excess mascara or foundation. Finally, you can use your petroleum jelly on your lashes to thicken them up and give yourself a dewy,bared-face good look.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Make do

The problem with pulling without planning is that you wake up without your back-up products; no dry shampoo, no moisturiser and no daytime make-up. So, to cope with the unplanned pull you need to make do with household items you would never normally use in your beauty regime. For example, if you wake up with a greasy hairdo pat plain flour into your roots and comb, or if you don’t have a comb, shake the flour out of your locks. This should degrease your hair and give it some volume. Although it won’t be your best hair day ever, you’ll look presentable.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Be kissable

Chances are the morning after the night before is going to result in a few smooches. To make sure you’re kissable swill some toothpaste in your mouth using some water. You can also use baking soda as a replacement for toothpaste if for some weird reason there is none in the guy’s apartment. To get soft, kissable lips mix a little sugar with lemon and rub the paste onto your lips in circles. They’ll be super soft and leave your date wanting more.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Smile

So what if you don’t have your make-up kit? You can still look picture perfect. Studies have found that people who smiled more were considered more attractive, so flash those teeth girls. If you feel shy about your not-so-fresh mouth then there are a few foods that you can munch on to give you fresh, clean breath. Try a dollop of yogurt for breakfast as researchers have found that yogurt reduces hydrogen sulphide, which makes your breath smell bad. It also reduces bacteria in your mouth. Other useful foods to nibble on are apples, carrots and berries.

How to look good the morning after the night before: Get the hair do

Getting good hair is not easy when you’re playing away from home. Depending on your hair type there are a few little tricks you can use to get trendy tresses the morning after the night before. If you have long hair you can plait it and if you don’t have a hair tie, get creative and use a piece of fabric or even something like dental floss as a tie. Then, when you wake up untie your hair and you’ll have great looking waves. If you have shorter hair make sure you carry a hair bridge with you to build a fab beehive n the morning, or some bobby pins to sculpt some style into your bed hair.

ways to change what he does in bed!

How to get what you want in bed, without offending him

The male ego is a fragile thing, and telling your man that you’d like him to change his bedroom antics is likely to dent that sensitive ego and upset him. If you’re looking to spice up your sex life without venturing onto touchy territory, we’ve got the sex solutions for you.    

Share your sexual fantasies

If you don’t talk to your partner about what you fancy doing between the sheets (or in the bathroom) how are you ever going to get it? By sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner, you can tell him exactly what you’d like to try without hurting his feelings. There’s a good chance that your man will be turned on by hearing your repertoire of naughty thoughts and will want to put them into practise right away.

 Put the ‘x’ into ‘sex’

Try watching some x-rated films together for a little inspiration and he’s sure to learn a few things about what you fancy and what you’re not so fond of. If you see a particular position or move that you’d like to try, don’t be afraid to tell him. Using visual aids gets the message across clearly and focussing on new technique that you’d like to try is a positive way to change what he’s doing in bed.

Give feedback

Don’t be afraid to be blunt and tell him exactly where you want to be stimulated. Instructions such as “to the left” are not reserved for when you’re reciting your Beyonce lyrics; it’s a perfect way to help him learn where your hotspots are. If he does something that feels particularly nice, make sure you tell him.

 Ask what feels good for him

This may sound counterintuitive, but if you’re confident that you’re pleasing him you’ll feel more confident about asking him to hit your hotspots too. Finding out what feels good for him is also a great way to lead on to the topic of what feels good for you.

Don’t make a big deal of it

There’s nothing wrong with just telling him what you want to change about his bedroom antics, but don’t make a big deal of it. Don’t look him directly in the eye; men see eye contact as a sign of confrontation, and we all know they’re not fond of this. Make sure you tell him while you’re sitting next to him or you’re both preoccupied with something rather than face-to-face. This way, the mood will be relaxed and you avoid making him feel like he’s being shouted at

 Get flirty over text 

Face-to-face communication can seem a little too serious. Instead, send him a few flirty texts asking him what he wants you to do to him later and tell him what you’d like him to do for you. This way, you can tackle the subject without him feeling one jot of criticism. Oh, the wonders of modern technology!

Guide him

If you simply can’t find the words to tell your guy that you’d rather he changed his techniques between the sheets, you could physically guide him and show him what you like. If, for example, he was touching you in the wrong place, next time he’s doing it just take his hand and gently guide it towards the place that feels best.

 Reward what works

This may sound like a school teacher and pupil kind of  relationship but if your man doesn’t know what you like, then how is he to know that he should keep doing it? Every time he does something you like, make sure he knows about it! 

Two positives for every negative

If you’re going to give your man some pointers, don’t overload him with negative comments. He’ll start to think you’re nagging him and will eventually tune out. Instead, make sure that for every negative point you raise, you add on two positives. For example, “I’m not sure I like it when you kiss my neck, but I love it when you touch me here”.

Take a holiday

A great time to experiment with new sexual techniques is when you’re on holiday. During this time, you and your partner will be much more relaxed and willing to try new things. Who has the energy for sexy time after a stressful day at work? Pass us our pyjamas and a warm mug of tea. There’s a good chance your man will be feeling the same way. So if your sex life is waning, book a holiday and your sex life will reap the rewards. Voila – bedroom bliss. We’d like to thank all of those warm sunny rays and cosmos.

ways to eat and drink healthily at Christmas!

How to indulge at Christmas and not suffer the consequences

During the festive season, do your immune system a favour by eating well and enjoying the celebrations in good health. Here are 10 ways to eat and drink healthily at Christmas.

Have a wide variety of fruit and vegetables (the more colourful the better) and add lean meat and low fat dairy products for a diet rich in vitamins and minerals.
Try to do something physically active before a big blow-out, even if it’s just a brisk walk. Not only will you burn calorie and raise your metabolism (making you less likely to pile on the festive pounds) but you’ll feel more alert and motivated.
Line your stomach with a light meal before hitting your post-work Christmas party – food slows release of alcohol into the bloodstream and will stop you getting too drunk too quickly, saving your dignity if nothing else! Aim for something starchy with a lean protein, such as a chicken salad sandwich or crackers with carrot sticks and cottage cheese.
Try to alternate alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic ones such as fruit juice and water. You can also dilute your alcoholic drinks with these, effectively cutting your alcohol intake in half. Drink more, suffer less!
Choose soda and lime or slim-line tonic as mixers to keep that waistline in check. Remember that alcohol contains calories too, so it makes sense to steer clear of sugary mixers if you’re watching your figure. 
Drink a glass or two of water before hitting the sack to ease the effects of dehydration the next morning. Leave a glass by the bed to sip on through the night too.
If you do find yourself with a hangover avoid hair of the dog which will only place further stress on your liver. Opt for plenty of water, herbal tea and fruit juice instead to top up your body’s fluid and sugar levels.
Similarly, ditch the liver-busting fry-up in favour of something equally comforting, but definitely more nourishing – try a big bowl of winter vegetable soup with chunks of wholemeal seeded bread; full of vitamins, minerals, fibre and healthy oils to nurse you back to health.
When tucking into your Christmas day feast, make sure you savour your food – eating slowly and chewing properly increases your feeling of fullness and satisfaction by sending signals to your brain, making you less likely to overeat. It can also help prevent indigestion.
Watch portion size – ask yourself if you really need a second helping of roast potatoes when there’s still Christmas pudding and a cheese board to get through! If you do load up your plate, go for extra servings of Christmas veg such as carrots, sprouts and cabbage; all are packed full of nutrients and antioxidants like vitamin A.

ways to deal with a breakup!

How to cope when your relationship is over

Oh breakups, you don’t half make us feel grim. Our hearts hurt, we’ve cried the equivalent to a large river, and we haven’t slept for weeks. But don’t panic – ladies, move away from that waterproof mascara, and gentlemen, put down the pint and listen up. Here are five tips to help you banish the breakup blues:

Breakup tip 1:  Stay away, and think of the bad times

 “I’ll nip to her house to see if she’s remembered to feed the fish”, “I must go and check that he managed to get back from the gym okay”. No, no, no, no, NO!  If your relationship ended for a good reason, don’t sit there thinking of excuses as to why you ‘must’ go and see him/her, in the hope that you’ll fall into each other’s arms and have a passionate, slow-motion embrace. If you have any thoughts such as those above, this is the one time you can ditch the “think positive” mantra that people rave on about, and go all out on the “everything’s going wrong” train of thought. It’s common to mourn the end of your relationship by thinking of all those good times you had together, but these thoughts don’t counteract the fact that your relationship wasn’t going well. Whenever you have thoughts about getting back together – and you know deep down that you aren’t right for each other – remind yourself why you broke up and think of all the annoying habits your ex partner had. You’ll be grateful for your new-found freedom in no time.

Make positive changes to your life

Whilst there’s no doubt that breakups aren’t pleasant, they can serve as catalysts for all sorts of positive changes to your life. Now that you’re single, use it as a rare opportunity to break out of the mould you may feel like you’ve been cast in after spending prolonged amounts of time with this one person. You’re now free to reinvent yourself into whomever you fancy without needing to ask for anyone else’s opinion. If you fancy an image change, put some money aside to treat yourself to a new wardrobe or a new hairstyle, and don’t forget to give your home a little post-breakup boost too – get rid of any items that remind you of your ex and change around the furniture in any rooms that you spent a lot of time together in.

Breakup tip 3: Avoid binging on booze

Whatever you do, don’t seek refuge in alcohol because, as much as your favourite tipple may cheer you up, it can make your emotions come crashing back down twice as fast. You’re more likely to drink more than usual after a breakup to help you relax and forget about your worries, but alcohol makes more problems than it brings about solutions. One minute you’re having a quiet drink over a meal with your friends, and the next you’re knocking back tequila slammers like there’s no tomorrow. You wake up with a banging headache and a ‘sent messages’ folder (all to your ex) longer than the list of drinks you managed to chug back the night before. Avoid alcohol at all costs. Don’t keep it in the fridge, don’t walk past the shop, and don’t even look at the pub on your way home from work.

Remember there are other people with broken hearts

While it won’t solve all of your problems, it can be comforting to know that there are other people out there going through a breakup too. The chances are that they too are being told by well-meaning friends and family that there are “plenty more fish in the sea” as they sob into their pillow thinking “I know, but I want that fish”. Remember that it’s not the end of the world, and there are always people worse off than you.

 Understand what’s normal

Don’t panic if you feel as though you never want to go near a member of the opposite sex again, you never walk to walk past the men’s section in the clothing store again, and you never, for the rest of your life, want to even think of a man again. These feelings are completely natural when you’ve just come out of a serious relationship – it’s your body’s way of protecting you from any further heartache. One day, you’ll realise you have butterflies in your stomach, and you’re feeling slightly giddy over another person. Unfortunately, as the saying goes, you’ve got to take the rough with the smooth, and before you can experience those joyous sensations again, you must go through the hard part first. Breaking up is never easy to do, but once you’re at that ‘rock bottom’ stage things can only go up. It will all be worth it once you’re settled down with someone you’re much happier with.

ways to make her want you!

How to get her attention

Want to get her to notice you? If the uberbabe you can’t stop thinking about doesn’t even know your name, take a look at these tips – she’ll soon be obsessing over you:

Do the robot

When men dance, anything can happen: the good, the bad and the ugly. Whatever your style though, make sure you get up and give it a go. Dancing is an easy way for women to gauge your personality. It’s simple to see who is arrogant and who is shy on the dance floor, which will mean that you’re more likely to get a good match. Whether you think you’re a good dancer or a terrible one, remember this: those who dance symmetrically are considered to be more attractive. So make sure your moves are even the next time you do the robot or the Macarena.

Get an Aston Martin V12 Zagato

It may not be fair, but if you want the girl you like to notice you, you need to get some status. Women are attracted to men with money, power and success. They’re biologically wired to pick up on signals that suggest you possess any of these things. So what about if you don’t have money, power or success? Don’t worry. You just need to act like you do. Never put yourself down in front of the girl you like and act confident, not cocky. Dress well when you see her and don’t seek approval when you give an opinion. You need to seem very sure of yourself to win the status game.

Eyes for her only

Every single person has at least one thing they are insecure about, whether it is an issue with weight, nose size or something a little bit more intimate. That’s why, in a potential date scenario, you need to make sure that you have eyes only for the girl you’re chasing. If a stunning girl struts by in a tight skirt and long tanned legs ignore her and focus on the girl you’ve be daydreaming over. If you can, turn your back on the hot woman and look into the eyes of the girl you’re trying to get. She’ll pick up on this and feel great, whilst you’ll be moved onto her list of potentials.

Make her laugh

Guys who can make women laugh rarely fail to pull. Even ugly guys get with gorgeous girls if they can make a few jokes.  Apparently, women love funny men because they consider them to be more honest and more intelligent than their non-funny friends. If you’re not naturally a guy who can make people laugh, don’t pull out the joke book, it will knock your confidence back to the dark ages when your knock-off joke fails. Instead try to think of funny things that have happened to you or TV shows that make you laugh. Talk about these things instead.

You time

It’s harsh but pay attention to this advice: no-one will want you if you don’t like yourself. Confidence is the biggest turn-on for women and if you don’t have enough of it you won’t be able to pull or enjoy a relationship. This is something that a lot of guys forget about, but it’s important. Dating is vicious and the more knock-backs you receive the lower your confidence gets. Build your confidence by making time for other things in your life; a new project, a new sport or hobby. Something that makes you feel great no matter what is happening in your life.

signs that you’re in love!

How to know if you’re falling for someone!

They say that when you meet the one you just know. Yet they also told us that a certain jolly man who wears a red suit was real and they sure got that wrong.  So, we’re almost certain that if they can be mistaken about that, then they can be wrong about instantly knowing if you’re in love with the one. Here we show you seven signs that you are head over heels in love, so that you can know for sure if it’s love or if it’s just lust.

Crazy in love

Well, Beyoncé sure got it right when she released Crazy In Love. It turns out that when we fall for someone our brain actually behaves similarly to how it would if we had a mental illness. This deranged state is thought to be caused by one of the most important chemicals in love; serotonin.

Although serotonin affects us all in different ways, a study undertaken in 1990 by an Italian researcher found that those people who had recently fallen for someone showed symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Order. Maybe Romeo and Juliet would have behaved differently if they’d have known that their feelings were just a chemical reaction?

You become a vampire

 For those of us who are not crazy in love with a new guy or girl, when the alarm goes off we get up after enjoying at least six hours sleep and grab some breakfast. We will then go on to tuck into another two meals during the day before heading back to bed at night. Yet if you’re in a new relationship you may not be doing these everyday things. Instead you seem to be becoming more and more like a vampire. You have lost your appetite and you don’t seem to sleep much anymore. If you don’t sleep or eat then it’s a clear sign you’ve fallen for someone.  We’re sure all of the Twilight fans are excited about this news.  

Nothing gets you down

So you lost out on a promotion at work and you just found out your two best friends are leaving to go travelling for a year on the other side of the world without you; how do you feel? If you’re surprisingly upbeat then it’s a sure sign you’re in love. Researchers have found that when we fall in love the prefrontal cortex in our brains, which is associated with negative emotions, becomes deactivated. At the same time other areas associated with pleasure and happiness become active.  This means that things that would normally get you down don’t seem to affect you too much.

They seem perfect

Do you think that your new guy or girl is absolutely perfect? Do you think they’re absolutely perfect even though they eat with their mouth open, have an abnormal amount of body hair and have an unhealthy obsession with country music? If you still love them despite quirks that would typically drive you wild, then it’s a sign you’ve fallen in love. Studies suggest that the area of our brain that handles our social judgement deactivates when we fall in love. This effect of love is thought to last for up to two and half years, which is quite incredible. Amazingly it is thought that by disabling this area of our brain we are able to build stable relationships, which in turn aids our abilities to raise kids.

You feel like a teenager

We all remember feeling clammy handed when we talked to a boy or girl who we liked when we were teenagers. Yet we’re grownups now, so surely we’re too old to be feeling like that? Well, don’t be so sure. If those teenage nerves and feelings seem to be flooding back with vengeance whenever you see or speak to your new partner then it’s a sign you’re madly in love. When we fall for someone our norepinephrine levels shoot up and this chemical is what makes our hearts race and our hands sweat.

You forgot your birthday 

Who could forget their own birthday? The answer: someone in love If you can’t think of anyone or anything else other than your new guy or girl then we’re happy to tell you you’re in love. Be warned though, thinking of nothing else other than your new love has some hazards. For example, be careful not to doodle your new partner’s name on your notepad whilst in a very important meeting or accidentally call your boss your new partner’s name. Who knew love could land you in so much trouble?

You’re blind

Everyone knows the phrase love is blind, but there is in fact some truth in these words. Experts have found that people who have recently fallen in love tend to not feel attracted to other people. So, the hot colleague you’ve always flirted with when you’ve met one another in the stationary cupboard may suddenly hold no interest for you anymore. It is thought that our inability to see anyone else as attractive other than our new love interest stems from our increased levels of dopamine, which has been associated with our ability to focus.

Things men find unattractive about women!!!!!

Unattractive female habits

Too much makeup, talking about bodily functions, and belittling the opposite sex are just a few of the female habits that men find unattractive about women. We know that not all women are like this, but when we meet them, boy do we know about it. Here are seven things men find unattractive in a woman:

 

Being too drunk

We all love a girl who knows how to have a good time but when she’s had such a good time that she’s slumped over a bar with her knickers tucked into her skirt and toilet paper trailing from her shoe, it’s not attractive and it doesn’t make us want to walk over and kiss you in a “hands off folks – she’s mine” kind of manner. You ladies also have the tendency to speak so loud that you drown the music out in a loud bar when you’re drunk. There’s nothing wrong with getting merry, but when everyone starts looking at us because we’re with “that drunk woman” who is putting her skirt over her head and laughing hysterically, it’s embarrassing.

Talking about bodily functions

Yes, we know we agreed not to keep secrets from each other but can we skip that rule on this occasion? The day we realised that women do ‘number twos’ was the day  our world came crashing down, bringing all our sexual fantasies down with it. When you’re spending a long time in the bathroom, we like to think that it’s because you’re refreshing your makeup and hair. We could possibly – emphasis on the word “possibly” – stretch our imagination to think that you may be going for a tinkle, but we’d rather not. Please don’t talk about any of your bodily functions; leave topics about “the time of the month” and your bowel movements for your girl friends.

Excessive body hair

We associate body hair with testosterone and testicles so seeing it in excessive amounts on a woman can be quite a turn off.  We know it’s painful to go through the rigmarole of waxing, plucking, epilating, and whatever other fancy hair removal systems you use (notice how we know all about this stuff because it’s one of those things you nag about?) but at least keep it trimmed so it looks presentable.

Too much makeup

It’s great to take pride in your appearance and that goes for clothes, hair, and makeup too. If this is a first date, wearing minimal makeup to enhance your looks is sexier than the overdone look, in our opinion. If we’ve been together for a while, we love you no matter how much makeup you wear, but we’d prefer it if you kept it to a minimum. Purple, pink and green eye shadow with red lips? Someone pass my sunglasses. We go in for a kiss and end up looking like a clown from the circus and it isn’t a good look for either of us. Ladies, if you insist on wearing that much makeup, please refrain from snuggling up on our shoulders – that’s my favourite white shirt you just stained with your makeup

Belittling us

We can just about cope with being called “snuggle bunny” and “baby boy” but when you belittle us to the point that we look stupid in front of other people, that’s one step too far. Don’t correct everything we do and say as if we don’t know anything. Just because we do things differently to you, that doesn’t mean that your way is right.

Swearing

We can forgive you the odd cheeky swear word, but when you’re effing and jeffing like there’s no tomorrow it can be a real turn-off for some men. We like our ladies with a touch of class and cramming your vocabulary with swear words doesn’t quite ooze sophistication. What’s wrong with using normal words to express your feelings? Dictionaries and thesauruses are brimming with options – take your pick. We’re not suggesting that you express your feelings using sentences such as “I am feeling ever so disenchanted” or “I’m awfully embittered by this” but saying something along the lines of “I am flipping angry” or “this is blimming frustrating” are much nicer replacements for sentences packed with foul word

Nagging

We’ve spent long enough silently moaning to ourselves about how annoying women are when they nag, that we’re taking this opportunity to get it off our chests once and for all. We can’t usually raise it in conversation you see, because no matter how delicately we approach the idea that you might possibly annoy us when you nag, we will be sentencing ourselves to even more endless nagging about pointing out that your nagging is getting too much. You nag at us for leaving the toilet seat up, you nag at us for “not caring”, you nag at us for not shaving for a few days... sheesh. Would you prefer us to go to the toilet sitting down? Would you prefer us to be over emotional? And perfectly groomed? Then you’d nag at us for not being manly enough. Three words: we can’t win.  Don’t mess with how nature intended men to be, and we won’t mess with how nature intended you to be. If you can’t handle that, then maybe you should be dating

How to turn him on!

What your man wants you to know

Ladies, we all know that the way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pants. So it can be a nice surprise for him if you turn him on first, rather than vice versa. If you want to drive him wild and become the best he’s ever had then put these top tips into practice:

The five senses

Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.

Dress up

Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.

Tease

Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.

Surprise

Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.

Rub his perineum

Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.

Use your hair

Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild.  Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.

Message him

Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.

signs she’ll be good in bed!!!!!!!

How to know if someone is going to be great in bed

Life is full of disappointments, but one of the biggest let downs is to find that the girl you have been chasing for weeks is a total let down in bed. You know the kind of girls that lie there as if in pain, not moving, speaking or even making eye contact with you. To make sure that you don’t waste your time pursuing a woman who is terrible in bed, check out these top tips.

Skin on show

If you want to know if the girl you are dating will be good in bed, you need to check out the clothes she has picked out for your date. If she has chosen to reveal some of her body by wearing a low cut dress, a tight skirt or is showing off her bare legs, it’s a sign that this girl has body confidence. If a woman is confident about her body the chances are she’ll be great in bed.  This is because she’ll be happy to get into loads of great positions and actually let you see her naked with the lights turned on – cue the applause for body confidence.

She picks coffee ice cream

The last thing you’d ever think was a sign that a woman is any good in bed is her choice in dessert, but studies have found that a woman’s choice in ice cream flavour is in fact very revealing. Neurologist and director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, Alan Hirsch, M.D., found that women who loved vanilla ice cream tended to be more open about expressing their emotions and were the kind of girls who would swoop in for a cheeky kiss in the middle of a busy restaurant. If the girl you date opts for a bowl of coffee ice cream then be prepared to enjoy an unforgettable night. The study found that women who enjoy coffee ice cream are seductive and flirty; sex should be wild and dramatic.

She’s okay about dirt

Okay, so although you don’t want the woman you are dating to turn up with food down her top and unclean hair, nor do you want the woman you are dating to freak out over a fleck of dirt that landed on her skirt when you crossed the road. To be great in bed your girl needs to be somewhere in the middle on the spectrum of total mess – uptight perfectionist. This is because if the girl you are dating is too obsessive she’ll be unable to relax in bed. Nothing will be good enough for her and rather than whispering seductively into your ear she’ll batter you with a mix of insults and instructions. 

Goes Dutch

Although it may not seem like the most romantic situation in the world, going Dutch is great news for your sex life. If a woman offers to go halves on the cost of the date it shows you that she is not a pampered princess and she’s willing to share. Translate these traits into her bedroom personality and it shows you that this girl won’t be selfish when under the covers. She’ll take what you give, but then return the favour.  

Bare faced beauty

If you want to know if the she’ll be good in bed, you need to look out for signs that she is confident and comfortable within herself. This does not mean that the woman you are dating has to be loud and is always the centre of attention; meek girls can turn wild in bed remember. Instead, you need to look out for signs that she is happy about her appearance and has a healthy amount of self-worth. One way you can tell your girl possesses both of these qualities is that she doesn’t try too hard. If the woman you date wears a crazy amount of make up or beats herself up about the smallest failing, it’s a sign that she’s insecure and sex won’t be as good as it could be.

Picks the film

Sometimes the most agonising part of a date is choosing what you are going to do together. If the girl you are dating tells you where she wants to go and what she wants to do when there, it indicates she’s strong, independent and firm. This means that when you two are getting it on she’ll let you know what she wants and what she needs. You won’t have to guess whether she’s enjoying herself or not and you’ll get some handy and tactful tips if your moves are doing the job. 

The kiss

The way she kisses is like a preview to the way she will behave in bed; so make mental notes about the way she kisses you. Does she stand still and prod you with her puckered lips? Or does she lean in, running her hands over your body as she kisses you with passion and care? If the girl you are dating moans a little, bites your lip gently or puts rhythm into the kiss – building gradually from slow to fast – then you know that this girl is going to give you the best night of your life.