7 signs your relationship won’t last

Sign of a break-up 1: The relationship is turning mean

While “treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen” may sometimes be the key to attracting that special person, if you’ve been with your loved one for a while and you’re still being treated mean then it’s unlikely that your partner’s objective is to keep you keen. While most couples tease each other by being ‘mean’ in a playful/flirtatious way, if their main intention is to hurt or demean you then the respect has evaporated from the relationship and it’s going to end in tears. 

Sign of a break-up 2: You choose not to spend much time together

Relationships thrive when both members of a couple create the right balance between spending time apart and spending special time together. If you find yourself spending a large amount of time without your partner and you’re not even missing them, there’s a good chance you’re just not that into them and your relationship is probably headed for the rocks.

Sign of a break-up 3: You’re not introduced to family or friends

When you’ve met that special someone who you really love, you have butterflies in your stomach and you want to shout about your romance from the rooftops. If you’ve been with someone for a good few months and they still haven’t introduced you to their family or friends then you’ve got to question why they aren’t making your relationship public information...

Sign of a break-up 4: They’re controlling

Does  your other half want to know your exact whereabouts and exactly what you’re up to at all times? While you might enjoy the attention to start off with, this can become pretty annoying after some time. If your other half is exhibiting behaviour like this, it’s a signal that they are jealous by nature. You’ll only be together for as long as you can put up with this for but even if you stay together, you will end up feeling smothered and this isn’t the recipe for a happy relationship.

Sign of a break-up 5: You have nothing in common

Yes, we know that opposites attract but when you’re so opposite that you can’t even have a decent conversation because you have nothing in common, we’re pretty sure that polar opposites repel in these situations. Of course, you don’t want to be with someone who is exactly the same as you (yawn!) – having different interests can be exciting. When it gets to the point where your conversations are boring though, we can pretty confidently say that this isn’t going to work out.

Sign of a break-up 6: Where’s the commitment?

If you’ve been seeing each other for a while and your other half has shown no signs of wanting to commit, it’s worth wondering why. Of course, some romances take a long time to develop by nature, but make sure you don’t end up being strung along by someone who doesn’t see a future with you. A relationship where one person wants to commit and the other doesn’t seem interested is destined for disaster.

Sign of a break-up 7: Too busy to call

Of course, it’s normal for people to be too busy to call their partner a lot of the time – life is busy! However, if the phrase “I’m too busy to call” is becoming all too familiar, then your other half needs to prioritise. If they can’t do that, you’re going to end up feeling pretty rubbish. Everyone needs to feel special and if your other half doesn’t make you feel that way, it’s time to ditch them for someone who does! Read more on realbuzz.com...

OVERCOMING BREAK UPS!

Unless you met the love of your life
and stayed with them forever, you
must have experienced the ending of a

love affair. Here are some tips on
overcoming a breakup:

1) Be nice to yourself: =>> While you
may be feeling low and unloved, the
end of a relationship doesn’t have to
mean you stay on your own forever.
Mr or Ms Right could be the next
person to walk through the door. In
the meantime be nice to yourself. Do
all the things you wanted to do but
your last lover wasn’t interested in.
There are probably some shows and
films that you would love to see. Grab
some friends and head out for the
evening.

2) Don’t be seen as being desperate:
=>> Desperation is not an attractive
emotion in anyone. If you want your ex
to take you back, you need to show
them what they are missing. They
won’t want someone who is miserable
all the time. They want the person they
originally fell in love with.........So
despite how you are feeling you always
need to present the best side of you in
public. Dress nicely so you look great
and above all plaster a smile on your
face. Even if you feel like you are going
to die from the pain, you never know
when you will meet your ex or a
mutual friend, so act happy; even if it is
the performance of your life. You can
cry into your pillow when you are
home alone.

3) Don’t let your life stop: =>> Yes! I
said you could cry into your pillow but I
didn’t mean all day every day. Feeling
miserable after a break up is natural
but if you wallow in self pity, you
generally end up feeling worse. There
is more to life than any partner so get
out there and start enjoying yourself.
You may have to pretend for a while
but soon you will find that you are
actually having fun again.

4) Don’t over-analyze what went
wrong: =>> Yes we need to learn from
our mistakes but the breakup may not
have been your fault. It could simply
be that the other person got scared of
commitment i.e. cold feet. If they get in
contact , agree to meet them for a
coffee or tea and see how things go.
Be polite and listen to what they have
to say. If they want you back, don’t be
too eager, but agree to see how it
goes......If you were the one who
finished things, but now realize you
made a mistake, tell your ex. They are
not mind readers and they won’t know
you want to rekindle your love affair
unless you tell them.

Men and women often get things
wrong as we see life so differently.
Sometimes we have to split from our
partner to realize what we had was real
love. Often a break and a little
communication goes a long way to
overcoming a breakup and getting
back together.

LOVE TEMPTATION!!!!!!!!

My GirlFriend and I had been dating for over a year and so we decided to get married. There was only one little thing bothering me, her beautiful younger sister. My prospective 21 years old sister in law, always wore short mini skirts, and often times was Bra-Less. She Would regularly Bend down when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view.
One day her little sis called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations.
She was alone when I arrived and she whispered to me that she has feelings and desires for me that she couldn't overcome.

She told me that she wanted me just once before I get married and commit my life to her sister.
Well, I was in total shock and couldn't say a word.
She said, ' I am going upstairs to my room, and if you want one last wild fling just come up and get me.
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her Go upstairs.
I stood there for a moment, then I turned and headed straight to the front door.
I opened the door, then headed straight towards my car.
Loo and behold, my future family were standing outside, all clapping hands!
With tears in his eyes, My father-in-law hugged me and said, " We are very happy that you've passed our little test, We couldn't ask for a better man for our Daughter-Welcom­e to the family!"

I smiled and heaved a sigh of relief because..
.
I was actually heading to my car to get my condoms.

TRUE LOVE AND ITS MISCONCEPTIONS

Are you really sure about your definition of love? Or what does love means?
Probably you may have already known the definition of it. You might have look upon the dictionary or search the web for its literal meaning. But, what exactly does love means for people who practices the sense of increase? I'll give you my meaning of love as I already practice the philosophy of it. You might contradict some of the ideas I will present to you but, these ideas are more than enough for you to really understand what love really is.

What love is NOT
1. Feelings - should not be the basis for love because they are transient and passing. You can't have feelings for your loved one for the rest of your life that's a fact.
2. Sex - love is more than what sex can give such as commitment, patience, sacrifices, respect etc. Having sex with someone doesn't mean that you already express your love to him/her. Once again, this shouldn't be our basis for love.
3. Out of control - True love knows what is right, good and proper; it always seek for the good of the other.
4. Affection/Attraction - can die down and disappear, completely but true love lasts.
5. Blind - because true love is reasonable it seems and understands what is right and good.
6. Falling in love - We don't fall in love so as to not to fall out of love. We should "grow in love".

What love is
Love is a commitment, a responsive act of the will and decision (of the intellect) to care and aspire for the good and happiness of the loved ones.
Love is unselfish, because it often involves putting off one's immediate needs.
Love is unchanging, because it is not based on the whims of feelings, convenience or other circumstances.
Lastly, Love is unconditional because it does not demand something in return neither payment nor appreciation nor reward.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
Love never fails."
If you are yet to find true love......,then you are probably looking in the wrong direction.

5 tips for her, from him!

• Always give a man a chance to speak. You'll be amazed what they come up with when you give them the opportunity to say something.

• Listen carefully to what he says, and don't make any hasty assumptions.

• Just because he's a man, doesn't mean he's emotionally tough. Men have feelings too, and they should be taken into account.

• Allow him some time and space every day, just to be on his own or to do his own 'stuff'.

• Love him for who he is, not for what you think he should be.

5 tips for him, from her…

• Listen. One of the main reasons why women are unfaithful in long-term relationships is because they feel as though their partners never listen to them.

• When she tells you about a problem.........,she needs your attention more than your advice or judgment.

• No woman is immune to romance. She doesn't need a big romantic gestures. A kiss, a hug or a flower will do.

• Tell her what you're feeling. She'll be less prone to jump to conclusions if we know the truth.

• Just because you told her that you loved us 2 years ago doesn't mean you can't remind us. Ladies need re-assurance