How to have sex

Many people have questions about how to have sex, but it isn't always easy to get good advice. This page aims to answer some of the most common questions that people ask about how you have sex.
It depends what you mean by having sex. Having sex can sometimes mean a number of different sexual activities, but usually it means sexual intercourse. The most common definition of sexual intercourse is an act that involves a man putting his erect penis inside a woman's vagina. Sexual intercourse might also be used to refer to sex acts between two men or between two women.

Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman usually starts with them both getting sexually excited. This is sometimes referred to as foreplay, and might involve kissing and cuddling, touching each other and other sexual activities. Foreplay is important as it means a woman's vagina begins to get moist and a man gets an erection. If the woman's vagina does not get moist enough, then having sexual intercourse could be difficult or painful for her. 

If a man and woman are having sexual intercourse, then using a contraceptive properly, every time, will prevent the woman becoming pregnant. If two people have sex and one of them has a sexually transmitted disease (STD) then they could pass it on to the other person. Using a condom is the best way to prevent any infection from being passed from one person to the other. 

If a couple are going to use a condom for protection against pregnancy or infections, they should put it on the man's penis as soon as he gets an erection. Some men say they worry about using condoms in case they lose their erection or have difficulty putting the condom on. You could get some condoms and practice beforehand. Condoms come with instructions in words and pictures which show exactly how to use them.
After the condom is on, the man or woman can guide his penis into her vagina. The couple then move their bodies so that his penis moves up and down inside her vagina. This usually rubs the penis and makes the man sexually excited so that he has an orgasm. The movement might also rub the woman's clitoris (or sensitive areas inside her vagina) so she can have an orgasm. But this often takes practice and a bit of experimentation to get it right!

Sex Tips From Guys

Get Him Riled Up

Tip #1

"I can't be the only guy who loves when a woman licks that soft patch of skin in front of my ears." –Jamie, 23

Tip #2

"When I learn to kiss you, hold the back of my head gently in your hand. It's tender yet sexy." –Donny, 34

Tip #3

"Wet your lips and moan that you can't wait to taste me." –Sam, 22

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Tip #1

"Wear silk gloves or a cashmere scarf and rub them against sensitive regions like my treasure trail." –Louis, 24

Tip #2

"Reach into your panties, then touch my lips with your wetness." –Troy, 28

Tip #3

"News flash: Guys have nipples too, and they're a lot more sensitive than you'd think. Graze mine with your teeth while your hands tease my package." –Rory, 21

Tip #4

"My girl held my tongue in place with her teeth during a make-out session while she tickled the tip with her own tongue. Electrifying." –Howard, 30

Tip #5

"I really dug going down on my college girlfriend; she'd grind her pelvis into me in frenzy." –Gary, 23

Tip #6

"My girl pretended not to want to kiss me. I had to use my tongue to pry her mouth open passionately." –Ron, 25

Tip #7

"Have me lie on my stomach, then wet the skin below my butt with your tongue. Blow on it." –Beckett, 33

Tip #8

"When I put a finger in my girl, she inserted one of her digits too so I could feel our fingers together." –Sandy, 29

Tip #9

"There's this groove on the back of my neck above my spine. Suck on it during a make-out session—I'll be hard ASAP." –Paco, 29

Tip #10

"Go down on me but keep your hands behind your back so you grip me only with your lips." –Jim, 21

Tip #11

"After working me up with an hour of torturously hot foreplay, my ex would clench her legs together and force me to pry them apart if I wanted some relief. Fighting for it always brought out this exhilarating primal instinct in me." –Frank, 31

Tip #12

"Try this 69 twist: I'm on top giving oral to my girl, but instead of using her mouth, she lets me slide my member between her breasts." –Alain, 24

Tip #13

"My current girlfriend treated me to a 'bed dance': She had me lie on my back while she slowly rubbed herself along my chest, stomach…and finally my package." –Arlo, 28

Tip #14

"My girlfriend and I play the 'dirty dice' game: We connect sexy acts to a number: For example, if I roll a seven, she has to give me a demo of how she touches herself." –Ron, 21

Tip #15

"A little-known erogenous zone: the area between a guy's navel and his penis. Lick it, tickle it, or gently tug the hairs there." –Cesar, 28

Tip #16

"When it's hot out, my girl lets me place ice cubes on the curves of her breasts and hips. As the cubes melt, they leave a trail of cool water, which I then trace with my tongue." –T.J., 32

Tip #17

"Do what my first girl did: Moan my name while I pleasure you." –Eddie, 28

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Getting it on

Tip #1

"Ride me while you still have on a nightgown, the lift up the edge so I can glimpse my shaft inside you—then hide it again." –Nelson, 29

Tip #2

"My lady likes to lie facedown on the bed, with her legs straight and her arms at her sides. To enter her, I have to push past her legs and cheeks. The resistance is really hot." ---Lyle, 21

Tip #3

"Let me go deep during missionary by planting your feet on the bed and using the leverage to thrust toward me each time I push into you." –Ivan, 33

Tip #4

"My current girl turned me on to slower, more sensual sex. My favorite way to experience it: She and I will sit cross-legged, wrap our arms around each other tightly and gently rock our way to orgasm." –Xavier, 24

Tip #5

"Straddle me, then bring your knees up to your breasts, so I can see and feel you at the same time." –Gregory, 34

Tip #6

"Midbooty, pull away, then scoot down and put your mouth on my shaft. Knowing that you're tasting your juices drives me wild." –Tyler, 28

Tip #7

"Let me take you while we're both standing up. The stance makes your grip feel ultratight."—Connor, 26

Tip #8

"Right before I climax, spread your legs really wide, it allows me to plunge extremely deeply as I explode with pleasure." –Meyer, 26

Tip #9

"The thing I love about the spoon position is that it lets me feel so much of your body at one time. That closeness is electrifying." –Bobby, 26

Tip #10

"A girl once squeezed her PC muscles as hard as she could against my member in the middle of sex. What a smokin' treat." –Jared, 35

Tip #11

"My ex used to totally thrill me by riding me reverse cowgirl-style and pinning my ankles to the bed."—Dominick, 24

Tip #12

"Make me explode during doggie-style sex by turning your face to the side and making out with me." –Paul, 35

Tip #13

"While we were going at it from behind, the woman I hooked up with let out a guttaural scream. I'd sure like to hear that again." –Nick, 28

Tip #14

"When you're near the point of no return, whisper four-letter words into my ears—the really dirty ones." –Fred, 23

Tip #15

"While you're straddling me, lean over and place your hands against the wall so your breasts hang invitingly over my face." –Darnell, 24

Tip #16

"During Missionary, place your hands on your man's shoulders and push against him. He'll have to struggle to thrust upward, which means he's working harder for his pleasure—always a turn on." –Thomas, 22

Tip #17

"One time, my girlfriend suddenly lifted her leg up practically over her head, completely changing the angle of penetration. I saw stars." –Ian, 18

Tip #18

"Stay silent as you approach orgasm. The way your face scrunches up says more than words."—Sal 28

Tip #19

"When your man is really close, lightly roll your knuckles between his balls and his back door." –Tobias, 30

Tip #20

"If I'm thrusting too fast for you, grab my butt and press your hands into my cheeks to signal that I need to slow down." –Avary, 30

Tip #21

"When I'm on top, my girl will draw her knees up, then rock them side-to-sode. I get to feel this corkscrew like sensation." Lucas, 23

Tip #22

"A major reason guys dig missionary: When a woman lies back and raises her arms, her breasts are at their fullest and bounciest." –Gabe, 20

Tip #23

"Lower yourself sideways onto your man's penis. He'll be able to feel your inner contours in an entirely new way." –Les, 21

Tip #24

"My favorite position is doggie-style, with both of us lying down rather than on our knees. Every tiny movement grinds our bodies closer and creates deeper sensations." Roman, 22

Tip #25

"Climb on top but leave your bra on, then whip it off once sex is under way. Seeing your breasts spring free puts me over the top." –Mac, 26

Tip #26

"I had a fling with a girl who would prop her hips with stack of pillows so she could better receive oral from me. The higher pose allowed me to pleasure her longer." –Jeremy, 25

Tip #27

"Grab my head and grind against my lap, pushing my face onto your breasts." –Nolan, 30

Tip #28

"I love having sex while blasting loud music. It makes it easier to let loose." –Casper, 23

Tip #29

"While we're going at it on the bed, guide me down to the floor. The harder surface offers a different feel and resistance." –Shane, 22

Tip #30

"Once after climaxing, my girl held the same rigid, arched-back pose for a minute until her panting subsided, like she never wanted to let go." –Norm, 26

Tip #31

"An old girlfriend used to lift her arms over her head during missionary so that her breasts jiggled in rhythm with my thrusts." Jimmy, 28

Tip #32

"Tell me to get undressed but to keep my tie on. Pull on it to bring me closer to you." –Ted 31

Tip #33

"During doggie-style, put a big pillow under your stomach. My last girlfriend did this, and she said the angle it created allowed me to stroke her G-spot." –Ari, 23

Tip #34

"I'll never forget the time a girl commanded me to lie still during woman-on-top while she turned an entire 360 degrees with me inside her. I felt every inch of her." –Walde, 27

Tip #35

"Prop a few pillows under your head so you can see the action. I'm fixated on how my manhood looks going in and out of you—I'd be thrilled if I knew you were too." Matthew, 21

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His Down-There Domain

Tip #1

"My old girlfriend would have me pull out so she could rub my shaft against her extern wetness." Spence, 22

Tip #2

"After climax, a guy's head can feel overheated and tingly. If you gently pull his hair and massage his scalp, it will quickly relax him."—Chris, 29

Tip #3

"Flick just the tip of my penis under your tongue. Do it over and over. It would take hours for me to climax this way, but man, what a way to pass the time!" –Keith, 22

Tip #4

"The best oral I ever got happened while I was hanging from the chin-up bar I keep in my home gym. The strain in my arms mixed with the bliss I felt below the waist created unbelievable pleasure."—Chris, 25

Tip #5

"My girlfriend and I discovered a fantastic way for her to give me oral: I kneel at the head of the mattress with my back on the wall. She spreads out stomach-down across the bed so I have a view of her hot body." –Clay, 31

Tip #6

"Giving oral is always good, but using your hands as an extension of your mouth is way better and will leave me weak in the knees." –Peter, 27

Tip #7

"Instead of taking me straight into your mouth, hold the base of my penis and nibble the sides."—Reggie, 24

Tip #8

"I love when my girl touches my package like she's never seen it before. She's not innocent, but it's a lot of fun pretending." –Patrick, 23

Tip #9

"Make two fists around my shaft and twist them in opposite directions as fast as you can." Jamie, 30

Tip #10

"Run your fingers around the area where my balls meet the rest of my body. It feels so nice." –Eric, 31

Tip #11

"Rub my penis against your lips like you're applying lipstick." –Henry, 23

Tip #12

"One woman I knew would trace her finger from my balls along my cheeks and up to my back. Then she'd do it reverse. It was so hot." –Stan, 21

Tip #13

"During sex, my girl sometimes pumps her fingers against my shaft, enhancing my sensation."—J.P., 19

Tip #14

"I love when a woman rubs on a little hand lotion before stroking my package. It's unbearably silky." –Mike, 26

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Kink It Up

Tip #1

"Never underestimate the power of stilettos. You don't even have to walk around in them…just have your way with me while wearing them." –Victor, 25

Tip #2

"My blond girlfriend once came to bed in a long, red wig. A week later, she as a pixie-cut brunette. I felt like I was with a new girl each time." –Andrew, 33

Tip #3

"A girlfriend once left on a leather belt while I took her from behind. The image of the leather jostling back and fort with each thrus…wow." –Rich, 27

Tip #4

"My girl goes down on me in a semi-public place. The risk of being caught triggers an insane orgasm." –Ross, 18

Tip #5

"While we're driving alone on a back raod, ask me to pull over and then jump into my lap. You'll be fulfilling my teenage fantasy of getting busy in my car." –Jason, 34

Tip #6

"More morning sex, please. We don't have to do it right when the alarm goes offl standing up in the shower or over the bathroom sink are pretty hot alternatives."—Charlie, 26

Tip #7

"My girl would use marbles to tease me with in bed. She'd casually scatter them over the bed sheet and then as we get it on, I could feel the cool marbles press against my hot skin. It's a wicked sensation." –Greg, 21

Tip #8

"My fiancee will blindfold me and rub her body across my face. I can only use my mouth and tongue to identify what I'm feeling." –Carter, 29

Tip #9

"One night, I came home to find a trail of photos leading up the stairs. Each one showed my girl….minus one piece of her clothing. When I finally got to the bedroom, she was talking one last picture of herself, totally naked." –Benito, 27

Tip #10

"My ex would meet me at local dive bars and pull me into the restroom for raunchy, against-the-wall sex." –Max, 21

Tip #11

"Treat your guy to sex under the water. With your bodies feeling so weightless, every thrust has 10 times the usual force." –Mark, 29

Tip #12

"Outdoor sex is always passionate, but it'll be even hotter if we leave our clothes a hundred feet from where we're getting busy—we'll feel more vulnerable." –Andre, 25

Tip #13

"There's something so taboo about giving a girl oral from behind." –Ian, 18

Tip #14

"One night, my girlfriend stopped the action and pointed to the camera she'd set up in the corner." –Justin, 21

Tip #15

"After climax, my girl led me to the bathroom, where she had a hot bath waiting. I felt like a king." Phillip, 24

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SEX POSITIONS EVERY MAN SHOULD TRY

  POSITIONS EVERY MAN SHOULD TRY

It is generally easier for men to reach orgasm, but for women the story is a little bit different. Men see sex as a physical activity as a result they take a lot for granted, but women on the other hand see sex as an emotional activity, as a result they are usually conscious of too many things and they get emotionally attached to their man especially if he understands sex from their own perspective. So it is advisable that you treat your woman as a precious gift when it comes to sex. Do not make sex boring by repeating the same routine over and over. Find ways to add spice to your sex life, find new ways to pleasure her, find out what she likes and make her happiness on bed your priority and trust me, she will never let you go.
Below are some sex positions you can try with your spouse. Whether your goal is to give her a blended orgasm or target her G-spot, focus on vaginal pleasure or hone in on her clitoris,these positions will help you perform like a pro *winks*.
Please do not be obsessed with the desire to make her reach orgasm, instead encourage her to try new things with you and before you know it you will find that magic spot that drives her crazy.

The Donkey Ride: For ultimate access to her clitoris

Instructions: Kneel and straddle her left leg while she’s lying on her left side. From here, she should bend her right leg around the right side of your waist—allowing full access to her vagina. This position allows for deeper penetration and gives you complete access to her clitoris for manual stimulation. But don’t feel limited to solely hands on fun. Try withdrawing your penis and, while holding the shaft with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris. Start out soft and slow, then as you increase speed and pressure, reinsert once you’ve brought her to the brink of an orgasm.

The Crouching Tiger: For targeting her G-Spot

Instructions: Position her on the edge of the bed, posing on all fours. As you stand behind her, have her arch her back so it lifts her butt upward. With your legs outside of hers, use your thighs to squeeze her knees together, which tightens her vagina around your penis. This position is ideal for G-spot stimulation and also gives you a great view of her curves.

The Downward Dog: For intensifying vaginal pleasure

Instructions: Have her lie face down on the bed with her knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised. For comfort, and to increase the angle of her hips, you can suggest placing a pillow under her lower abs. From here, enter her from behind and keep your weight off of her by holding yourself up with your arms. This position creates a snug fit—which intensifies her pleasure by making you feel larger to her. (A killer tip for you: You’ll last longer in this position if you switch to shallower thrusts and deeper breaths.)

The Thigh master: For optimal dual pleasure, you should try

Instructions: Lie on your back and bend one of your legs, keeping the other outstretched. Have her straddle the raised leg with a thigh on either side and then lower herself onto your member so that her back is facing you. From here, she should hold your knee and use it for support as she rocks up and down. Raising your knee allows her to rub against your thigh—which produces optimal clitoral stimulation.

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ways to make sex more exciting!

Your guide to better sex

Enticing, thrilling and hot; would you use these words to describe your sex life? If not, then it’s time to take a look at our guide. You’ll soon be enjoying some sumptuous, pillow-biting sex:

Go back to school

Awkward teenagers, bells and bad food doesn’t sound romantic but reverting back to a pupil may put the kick back into your sex life. Whether you’ve been with your partner a few weeks, or a few years, there are always new things to learn about what the other wants from sex. Take it in turns to play the role of teacher and pupil. The teacher needs to take control, show the pupil what they want and how to do it. The pupil needs to listen, comply and also remember these frisky moves for later. Make sure you both get a go in each role and on different days.

Have a curry

If you want hot sex then take your date for a curry. A UK study has shown that you don’t even have to eat a curry to raise your heart rate, just thinking of your favourite spicy dish is enough to increase both your heart and your blood pressure to a level similar to one reached during sexual arousal. Spicy food was also found to release endorphins, which provided extra pleasure. After your curry, why not have a chili eating competition. A chemical found in spicy peppers, capsaicin, stimulates nerve endings, which means your sex will feel amazingly good.

Love Yourself

Sex is a hugely intimate act and requires a lot of trust. Considering this, it’s not surprising that many people feel uncomfortable about sex. If you don’t feel confident, don’t worry, there are a few things you can try. You could play a new sport. Sport players have healthier relationships with their body because they value its function, not its aesthetic value. You could also invest in some sexy lingerie that covers areas you feel uncomfortable with. And remember, psychologists have found that people who are considered beautiful are just as likely to be unhappy as anyone else.

Never been touched?

Sex can become a routine; another thing to tick off your list. You do the same moves, the same tired tricks and it all gets a little bit dull. If this sounds familiar, stop. There are lots of new things and new places you can touch. The thighs and knees may not be the most obvious place to begin, but they often get overlooked and yet they are very sensitive spots. Another neglected part of their body is the fingertips. Take their hand and rub their palms, then pull on their fingers. Touching each other in new ways is simple, exciting and fun.

Play a game

If foreplay has become a timed race to see who can turn off the lights, pull off their clothes and reach the safety of the covers first then it is definitely time you learnt how to slow down. Take a pack of cards and play a game you both know well. The loser must remove one item of clothing. Once you have both stripped off, continue the game, but this time the winner can choose an act they’d like the loser to perform on them. Keep a timer close by, so the game progresses. Playing this game will not only allow you to enjoy each other it will also build sexual tension.

Go alfresco

Doing bad things we shouldn’t do is a turn on. Everyone enjoys it, but only the daredevils seem to give it a go. A fun and safe way that would allow you to take your loving outdoors is to find a compromise. You could have sex in the secrecy of your garden, or your balcony if it is secluded. Make sure both of you are comfortable and take necessary accessories, such as a blanket or pillow. Having sex outdoors will give you huge adrenalin surges, which not only make you feel great, you’ll also perform better than normal.  Be safe though; if you get caught expect trouble.

Reinvent yourself

You’re a brother, you’re a sister, you’re a wife, husband, dad or mum. When you get under the covers though, it’s important to forget who you are during the day. Adopting another persona in bed helps you de-stress and become sexy. There are lots of tools or accessories you can use to help you make the transition. You could wear a costume, a wig or even some exotic make-up. Play with different looks until you feel comfortable. Dressing up will give you a confidence boost, make your sex fresher and enable you to try new things with ease.

Shake Up Your Sex Positions

Call in sick, clear your schedule, and make sure you're hydrated. You're not going to want to leave your bedroom for a while. These inventive tweaks will shake up your favorite sex positions—and the results are volcanic. And just in case you need a reason to break away from your typical repertoire, know this: The more moves women try out during sex, the higher their likelihood of reaching the big O, according to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.
Plus, adding some variety can also prevent things from going stale outside the bedroom. Couples who constantly try new things together—which can include mattress play—report better romantic chemistry and higher relationship satisfaction than couples who stick to the same routine, according to research from Stony Brook University. Not to mention, trying new moves in bed causes your brain to release dopamine, the feel-good chemical that keeps you feeling hot for your partner, 

The Standard: Missionary

1. Clitty CAT
Technically called the coital alignment technique (CAT) this move maximizes clitoral contact. In fact, women who were unable to O in regular missionary were 56 percent more likely to climax using CAT, finds the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. Have your guy scoot two inches up from standard missionary, and wrap your legs around his thighs Rock in a forward-and-back motion as you press your pelvis up against his while he presses down against yours.
2. Knee Hugger
Lie on your back and draw your knees into your chest. Your partner should kneel, facing you, and hold your knees together for maximum tightness. Plus, this position forces him to thrust at a slower speed, so he'll last way longer.
3. The Leg Press
It's standard missionary--with a lift. Raise your legs so that your feet hug his neck or press into his chest, says Dana B. Myers, founder of BootyParlor.com and author of The Official Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover. Your guy will get even deeper penetration, and the added leverage will put you at the ideal angle for him to hit your G-spot.

The Standard: Girl On Top

1. Reverse Cowgirl
Spin yourself around so you are in the same position as girl on top, except facing his feet, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Sex Recharge. This variation allows for some serious G-spot stimulation and gives you the freedom to let your fingers wander to your hot spot...or his.
2. The Catcher
Instead of kneeling on top of him, straddle him in a squat position with your feet flat on the bed or floor, says Love. He'll enjoy the view, and you'll be in better control to hit your G-spot.
3. Easy Glider
Lie on top of your partner so your bodies are pressed together and your legs are fully extended, says Sonia Borg Ph.D., author of Marathon Sex. Then glide back and forth slowly. For slippery fun, rub massage oil over his chest and yours during foreplay.

ways to propose to your man!

 

Propose to your man: Sincere not soppy

Ladies, the main thing to remember is that it’s a guy you’re proposing to, so don’t overwhelm and smother him with romance. It shouldn’t be the overly-romantic proposal you see in films; it needs to appeal to the male psyche. So that means no roses, no fairy lights and no Bublé. Of course, classy components like champagne and candlelight are acceptable, but just don’t push it!
Propose to your man: Bling it up
At first glance you may think this is shallow or a form of bribery, but if the proposal was the other way around, you would expect a big sparkler, wouldn’t you? Proposing to your man with the promise of a new watch may be a nice way to seal the deal, or if you’re after a bit of ingenuity, then nothing says commitment like a dog or a boy’s toy such as a motorbike.

Propose to your man: The way to his heart

We all know the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so it makes sense to assume that cooking his favourite meal will be sure to make him fall in love with you all over again and will open his eyes to your caring and loving ways. If you’re no whizz in the kitchen, then opt for a picnic or treat him to a meal at his favourite restaurant. Or if he’s a laidback lad then simply order a pizza and pop the question at home.

Propose to your man: His favourites

A proposal is one of the most personal and cherished moments a person can experience, so it’s important to include as many unique and personalised aspects as you can. Consider his favourite things, such as places, food, drink and music. Perhaps take him to the place of your first kiss or memorable holiday destination. This will show that you know him inside out so let his favourite things be the basis of your choices.

Propose to your man: Stand tall

It’s estimated that nine per cent of proposals are from women to men, but it’s important to note that you need not mimic the traditional bended knee proposal. The whole point of a female proposal is that it’s out of the ordinary, so don’t feel you have to play the role of the man and instead be yourself. Besides, it’s not the most flattering or elegant pose for a woman. So stand tall and look him in the eye, ladies.

Propose to your man: Private moment

Like in the movies, you may imagine yourself in an atmospheric restaurant being applauded once you say ‘yes’ to your doting man, but he will probably have had a quieter moment in mind. Men don’t tend to like the same attention and fuss as women so keep it low key to avoid embarrassment. Take Bill Withers’ classic Just the Two of Us as your inspiration and arrange a private proposal – no big screens at a sports game in sight.

Propose to your man: Don’t rush

Many women can become impatient waiting for their fella to propose to them, but beating them to it just to satisfy your boredom isn’t the best idea. The reason he may be holding off is because he isn’t ready for the commitment. Make sure you’ve read the signs and know that it’s what you both want. It’s easy to get swept up in emotion but a proposal shouldn't be an ultimatum.

Propose to your man: Laid back

Guys are notoriously laidback compared to women, so going with the flow is key when proposing to a man. Planning the proposal to the nth degree and not allowing for leeway isn’t ideal when men are involved. Imagine making him miss out on a sports game or beers with the boys so you can whisk him off to propose; the teasing he’ll get won’t be worth it and you never want to be labelled the pyscho-bride by his friends.

Propose to your man: Fun times

Many guys are just big kids at heart so why not tap into this ego and propose while doing a fun activity like zorbing, white water rafting, paintballing or even while on a roller coaster? Men enjoy novelty and excitement so making the proposal fun will be a sure way to his heart. If you’re planning on pushing the boat out further, taking him somewhere über cool such as Las Vegas may also work wonders.

Propose to your man: Stolen thunder

On a final note, an important thing to remember is to go about the proposal tentatively. The last thing you want to do is deflate his masculinity and steal his thunder as, after all, traditionally it is the man who pops the question. Despite it being estimated that 80 per cent of men accept a proposal from their girl, some men may feel threatened so make sure you go about it the right way.

What women wish men knew about sex...

(and why we only tell our pals, not our partners)

 

People are often more honest about sex with friends rather than partners

Women need to be emotionally turned-on as well as physically

Men wish women were more confident about their bodies

After years of writing and researching sex, I'm always struck by how much more honest people are about their sexual needs when they're talking to the same sex.
Women are way more candid with women and men with men.
Which is all well and good except wouldn't it be sort of useful to know what each sex really wants from the other?
A few years ago, I started asking both men and women this question:
'If you were completely and utterly honest, what would you like to say to your partner about sex in your relationship?'
This is what they told me.
I think it's a fair representation of what women want from men and men want from women and offers vital insights on what it's like to be on the other side of the bed.
It's also a great way to start an open conversation with your own partner. 

'I need to be emotionally turned-on, too': What SHE wishes HE knew about sex

• 'It takes me longer to orgasm than you - don't rush me'
  In order to feel like sex, I need to be emotionally turned on, as well as physically stimulated.
• Words are aphrodisiacs to me. If you want more sex, talk to me more.
• The more housework you do, the more I will feel like sex. I'll be less tired and will feel more like an equal partner than a slave.
• I also want to initiate sex but I don't have time to work up an appetite if you make a move on me daily.
• It takes me longer to orgasm than you and it's more difficult. Don't rush me.
• Be gentler. My skin is thinner and more sensitive than yours. What feels normal to you, often hurts me.
• Don't assume I only want romantic sex. I'm also up for wilder, lustier sex now and then.
• Don't hassle me for sex after I've said no. It makes me feel unsexy, rather than turned on.
• Accept that I'm probably not going to orgasm purely through intercourse. I need stimulation of the clitoris by your hand or a vibrator. This doesn't mean I don't enjoy intercourse, it's just the way my body is designed.

 

'Stop worrying about your body': What HE wishes SHE knew about sex

• I use sex to express my love for you. Sometimes I find it difficult to express emotion and sex is a way of getting physically close to you.
• When you reject sex with me, I feel like you're rejecting me as a person. Please do it kindly.
• My sexual system is simple. I know yours is different but I need you to tell and show me specifically what you want so I can understand your body properly

• Just because I want to try new things, doesn't mean I don't think you're sexy. I just need and want variety.
• I am a visual person. I like to look at sexy things. There's nothing sinister about me looking at erotic photos, it's just what men do.
• Stop worrying about your body. I like you to look nice but I focus on the parts I love, not the bits you hate.
• I'd like to have sex frequently and regularly. If that isn't possible, please tell me why. If I understand why and know great sex will happen in the future, I can accept it.
• I realise your sex drive is affected by your monthly cycle. But make it clear to me when you're feeling like sex and let's make the most of that time, rather than focus on when you don't feel like it.
• When you act like you're only have sex to please me, it makes me angry and disappointed. I want you to enjoy it as much as I do.